rules Archives - Submissive Guide

What punishments and rewards should I add to my personal protocol?

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

It’s time for another Ask SubGuide question! We love using these monthly posts to spark conversation, offer guidance, and support. Whether this directly applies to you or simply gets you thinking, we hope it adds something meaningful to your month. Question: During my research on Submissive Guide, I’ve learned about personal protocol. I don’t have […]

What punishments and rewards should I add to my personal protocol? Read More »

Less is More: Meaningful Rules in D/s Relationships

By Luna Carruthers / 7 minutes of reading

Healthy D/s relationships aren’t measured by the number of rules they have but by how meaningful those rules are. This article explores why fewer, intentional rules often create stronger dynamics, encouraging partners to focus on purpose, consistency, and communication instead of complexity or performance.

Less is More: Meaningful Rules in D/s Relationships Read More »

How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission

By Luna Carruthers / 10 minutes of reading

Rules in a D/s relationship can be more than boundaries—they can be powerful tools for connection, growth, and maintaining the submissive mindset. In this article, I share how rules shape my submission, the emotional value they hold, and practical strategies any submissive can use to follow them with consistency and purpose.

How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission Read More »

I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?? We both work full-time but I need routine..any suggestions? He’s asking me to give Him examples and I have nothing.. thank you!! –Lovenvrdies Dear Lovenvrdies, Are you sure you need him to

I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest Read More »

30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It

30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »

Is Submission a Need?

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Is it possible to have a need for submission? I’m in an amazing “vanilla” relationship, with a past of D/S for both of us. We both know of the other’s past, and recently began to incorporate some D/S components to our relationship. The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s not just

Is Submission a Need? Read More »

What is the “Spirit of the Rule”

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

As a submissive, it can be easy to get into the habit of trudging along in a daily routine. You know what you should be doing: for some, the routine is detailed out hour to hour or even more so. You get comfortable and secure in the routine because you are confident that you are

What is the “Spirit of the Rule” Read More »

Reflecting On Past Relationships Can Help Develop Your Submission – Write Them Down In Your Submissive Training Resume

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Your training history is the catalog of the past relationships that you have had within a D/s dynamic. You will be documenting the training you received and list the basic development that you can recall being part of your service. If you have a long history with many dominants this could take awhile and be

Reflecting On Past Relationships Can Help Develop Your Submission – Write Them Down In Your Submissive Training Resume Read More »