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The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM Negotiation

By lunaKM / 11 minutes of reading

If you’ve spent more than a few minutes researching BDSM, even just scrolling through Submissive Guide, you know that negotiation is one of the cornerstones. Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse – they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it […]

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The Punishment Place: Dealing with Punishment as a Slave

By guest-author / 4 minutes of reading

This entry is part 6 of 17 in the series Discipline and Punishment

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I’m not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It’s an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline, and punishment. Maybe just to keep the roles we each live clearly defined.

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For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

By guest-author / 9 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and

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