by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by a […]
Healthy dominance develops with trust, communication, and time. This article explores the dangers of rushing power exchange, examining why some Dominants push for speed and how that urgency can become a red flag, helping submissives recognize pressure, protect themselves, and prioritize safety and discernment.
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Coming out as kinky is a deeply personal decision that carries emotional, relational, and sometimes professional implications. This article explores important considerations before disclosing your kink identity, helping readers weigh privacy, safety, and authenticity with intention rather than pressure or impulse.
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Critics have long debated whether BDSM empowers or exploits those who participate. This article examines that discussion through the lens of consent, agency, and personal choice, encouraging readers to look beyond stereotypes and better understand why healthy BDSM relationships cannot be reduced to simple assumptions or outside judgments.
Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community Read More »
The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset
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There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples. But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view. Someone may ignore a safeword because their scene involves
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Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship. Why? There are many reasons but the most important one is being safe not only with your partner but more importantly with yourself. Consent is
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The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms up out of the way to
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Think about the last time you went out to eat or stood in line at a check out counter. Do you remember looking at the service person who waited on you? Did you smile at them and greet them or did you stay on your cell phone and not even acknowledge them as they served
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Essentially I think we all believe that Dominant/submissive is an exchange of power but when you talk about it with others there happens to be two schools of thought on it. It can really get confusing because each side believes they are right. I’d like to present to you the two ideas and let you
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