When KnyghtMare and I embarked on our D/s journey, I was eager—no, ravenous—for rules, structure, and all the intricate rituals I believed would make our dynamic feel real. It wasn’t enough to have a few guidelines; I craved more—more rules, protocols, and proof that we were doing it right.
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When a Dominant is new or feeling unsure, a submissive’s support can make a meaningful difference. This article explores how a willing submissive can help a nervous new Dominant feel more confident during scenes through communication, reassurance, feedback, and mutual trust, without taking over the power exchange.
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Question: I am just starting out on my sub journey. I know very little. That being said, I have learnt loads in the last few weeks. I have met a Dom, and we’ve been chatting, etc., and he’s been amazing answering all my questions. He is a sadist. We’ve just touched on punishment and he
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Question: My husband and I are in a D/s relationship. However, I’m the one who runs the house, takes care of the kids, and is always the one “in charge.” How can he and I maintain our dynamic? How do I stay in touch with my submissive side? Answer: Being the one who manages the
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Sometimes it feels like we have an overwhelming need for labels. Everything should nicely fit as if the world or the universe is a gigantic jigsaw puzzle and everything has its place
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This is a guest post by Bibi for the Day in the Life Series. Interested in sharing what a day in your life looks like? Email it to me! My name is Bibi. I am a Full-time Slave to Master Jimmy, and this is a day in my life. I am not a youngster and am
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As I continue to delve deeper into my journey as a slave, I have come to the point where I am giving another round of contemplation to matters I once saw as pretty straightforward – one being the matter of the connection between submission and obedience in regards to hierarchical relationships. There seems to be
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from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-10-16 The topic for this article came to me from a reader survey I did over a year ago where I asked you what was most pressing to your at that moment and this question, “must I always wait for my Dom to tell me what to do?” came up.
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Punishment is one of those areas which is not what it seems. Before you can develop tools or methods of punishment you have to look at the concepts behind the issue itself. To
Submission often begins as a want—but for many, it becomes a core need. This reflection explores how everyday challenges can highlight the importance of power exchange, why acknowledging submission as a need strengthens your dynamic, and how to communicate that truth with your Dominant.
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Caregiver/little dynamics are often misunderstood within and outside the kink community. This article explores common misconceptions about these relationships, clarifying emotional roles, consent, and structure while helping readers distinguish between healthy caregiver/little dynamics and inaccurate stereotypes.
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This is a guest post by rife. Hi this is rife, Sinclair’s boy. Maybe you’ve read dirty things about me, but that’s not the whole story. So what am I up to when not bent over? Well … I love erotica and porn as much as anyone (honest!), but often when people describe it, we get
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This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s
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I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved into a polyamorous dynamic shortly after
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Hello lunaKM, I have a Dom friend that has been helping explore and figure out this wonderful world of BDSM. I have been seeing him for a few months and we are moving into more of a relationship and not just scenes. My question is how do I ask him for the discipline/attention when I
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This is a guest post by WKslittle one for the Day in the Life Series. Cap/uncapped writing is the author’s way of written communication and is a common choice for online LDR relationships. The Day in the Life Series is the only time I allow posts with non-standard grammar/spelling methods. If this bothers you, then
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This is a guest post by Autumn. I’m Relatively new to the BDSM community, but Master Grey is not. He introduced it to me slowly, respectfully, but my desire grew to know more, leading me to your website. :) A day in the life begins, really when I wake up. This varies currently due to my
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I see it all the time on discussion boards and we talk about it at social gatherings. I’ve even thought it a time or two. D/s relationships are better than vanilla ones. We see them as deeper, more intimate, better at communication and meeting the individual’s needs as well as the couple’s. For those of
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This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. As submissives, we sometimes face difficult circumstances with our Dominants. If you add being a submissive and being polyamorous into one dynamic, you just raised the bar. My Daddy has three other women that he has intimacies with. He must split his time evenly between all of us,
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I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?? We both work full-time but I need routine..any suggestions? He’s asking me to give Him examples and I have nothing.. thank you!! –Lovenvrdies Dear Lovenvrdies, Are you sure you need him to
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