A few months ago, there was a thread started on Fetlife about ethical BDSM and it really caught my attention so I had to check it out. At this time there were only a handful of comments and every one of these comments had said something pertaining to the dominant being responsible for the relationship […]
Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash Read More »
Your personal responsibility is one of the most important tools in a single submissive’s arsenal. It keeps you safe and protected from the most common predators, it will help you learn and grow while waiting and often has a positive result if maintained once you are no longer single. Personal responsibility is all about empowering
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You are a Reflection of Your Dominant – Or Are You? I’ve heard this numerous times and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Kind, good-intentioned people say that submissives should be on their best behavior because they are the reflection of the Dominant who owns them. The personal responsibility of the submissive is all
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In a play party last night I witnessed a poor novice woman with intense marks on her abdomen and kidney area. The oblivious novice Top that did this to her was stopped by a Dungeon Monitor but the woman said when asked, that the marks were no big deal and that she’s had kidney punches
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This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and
For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter Read More »
BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a
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