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How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information would feel like a disaster but […]

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What is Submission to You?

This entry is part 28 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything

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Why I Used to Believe I Could Never Be a Slave

This entry is part 30 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Within weeks of the realization that I wanted to be more than a kinky bed partner, I made the personal definitions of submissive and slave. Since then, over 7 years ago they have changed only slightly. So little that I had decided that based on my definitions I could never and would never be a

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The Value of a Slave

One of my earliest fantasies, or dreams actually, was the idea of being owned by someone and I envisaged the whole notion of belonging to someone much more simple and much more ‘me’ than the concept of being obedient or submissive as such. I wanted to belong more than I wanted to obey. I am

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