This is a guest post by  Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls, which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Sometimes it seems that people want and need the security they feel by putting rules in writing. Contracts, restrictions, regulations. Each of these is a way of limiting the free expression of ourselves […]
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Learning your limits is an important part of every BDSM journey. Through a personal story, this article explores how limits are discovered, challenged, and better understood over time, encouraging readers to approach exploration with curiosity, consent, honest communication, and respect for their own physical and emotional boundaries.
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Using a safeword can bring unexpected guilt, disappointment, or fears that you’ve failed your partner. This article explores the emotional aftermath of saying red, reframes safewording as an act of trust and responsibility, and discusses what to do when you realize you should have used your safeword but didn’t.
After “Red” : How to Manage the Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword Read More »
Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives, we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and how scary some of the things
Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It Read More »
Having been in the lifestyle for almost two years now, one of the things that I have noticed is that I am facing a lot of issues due to abuse from my past. Not from any Dominant in the lifestyle, just from others in my past. I’ve learned enough that if you have similar past
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