Dominant/submissive and Master/slave dynamics are often confused, but they are not the same. This article explores the key differences between D/s and M/s relationships, including levels of authority, structure, consent, and expectations, helping submissives better understand which dynamic aligns with their needs and desires.
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Question: Why is it called serving a Dominant? I don’t like that kind of phrasing and insinuation that I am somehow below the Dominant. Answer: It’s completely understandable that the word “serve” can rub you the wrong way. In everyday life, “service” often gets tangled up with ideas of being lesser, having lower status, or
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Question: Can you please do a post naming the different types of Dominants? There are so many different types, so there’s a great deal of curiosity. Answer: It is important to break this down into each side of the slash, so here are the general descriptions for some of the more common Dominant types. (Disclaimer:
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I think it is important to break this down into each side of the slash, so here are the general descriptions for some of the more common s-types. (Disclaimer: there is no one right answer/definition, this is based on generalized experience; labels should always be the START of a discussion, not the end of one.
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Full Question: How do I know if I’m a Switch or just a brat? Because I know I enjoy being dominated, but the other part is what confused me. I’m confused if what I thought of as ‘enjoy to dominate’ is just me being a brat. There are times that I do like having control,
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Full Question: What’s the difference between submissive and slave? Answer: I’ve been hanging on to this question for a while, because while I have a viewpoint, labels and definitions in BDSM often have contention to them. There is no one definition for these terms within the BDSM and kink lifestyle. It’s individually defined. Generally, people
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Full Question: How does a brat differ from any other submissives? Answer: Brats get a bad rap among other BDSM participants, and it’s likely because they always look like they want to annoy people. But that’s not really the whole of it. A brat is a bottom or submissive who enjoys misbehaving for attention and
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Full Question: Do you believe a submissive also has to be a slave? Answer: At Submissive Guide, we focus on submission. We use specific definitions to describe the words “submissive,” and “slave.” They are: submissive – A person who agrees to submit or give up control in a relationship, scene, or activity. slave – A
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Full Question: Luna…I am so very confused. I know I am submissive, but lately, I have been questioning if I am a sub or a baby girl. I don’t know exactly how to differentiate between the two, as the lines are kind of blurry for Daddy Doms. Help? Answer: Labels are confusing. They often have
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Sometimes it feels like we have an overwhelming need for labels. Everything should nicely fit as if the world or the universe is a gigantic jigsaw puzzle and everything has its place
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. A sexual submissive is a person who manifests submissive traits only in direct connection with sexual arousal and release. In all other aspects of their life this person will probably comport themselves in
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area
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The word “submissive” can bring up pride, discomfort, or uncertainty. This meditation invites readers to reflect on what the label means to them personally, encouraging self-compassion, agency, and intentional identity-building as part of a healthy, grounded submissive journey.
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If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. The feeling of completeness when we find the right Dominant. The silencing of all the noise in our minds. The ability to relax knowing that someone we trust is in charge. The love and devotion we feel when we
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Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there are a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I
Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles Read More »
When I was a novice (way back when) I heard about training a lot from the online conversations I held and the forum threads I participated in. In all the discussions I read, there was only one thing that was a common thread and that is that everyone had different interpretations of what training was,
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Given that it’s February and the world around us has been saturated with heart-shaped balloons, greeting cards, and overly expensive roses, I thought it might be a good time to discuss one way of seeing a D/s relationship. Does this apply to every D/s relationship? Certainly not. D/s relationships are like zebras; no two look the
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
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As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
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I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think
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