How long should you chat with a Dom online before meeting? A week is a fair start, but don’t stay stuck in endless texting. Learn when it’s time to suggest a coffee date, what their response can reveal, and how to spot if they’re serious—or just stringing you along.
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This may be easier than you think, dear s-type! It is important to remember that finding the right Dominant or Top through dating or shopping around can sometimes feel challenging. I liken the vanilla dating pool to a bowl of cereal. Lots of individual options floating around. Now take a spoonful out and in there-
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Full Question: I want to be submissive sexually but equal in day-to-day life. How to find a partner? Answer: The term you’re likely going to be using more readily while you search for a partner is “bedroom-only” submissive. And your partner would then be a “bedroom-only” Dominant. This type of relationship is more common than
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Full Question: How do I find a partner who is interested in kink and/or D/s? Answer: This is the most asked question in the Ask Submissive Guide column, so here’s your answer! The first step in finding a partner is going where they are. The good news is that kinksters are everywhere. Unfortunately, we don’t
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by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Expectations of Sex BDSM is not always about sex. BDSM is not synonymous with swinging, swapping, or Polyamory — although it’s possible for it to co-exist with these lifestyles. A
We spend a lot of time in front of a screen these days. We chat, we shop, we explore and we date, all from the comfort of our homes. But, it is my opinion, that dating is something that really should be done face to face. Yeah, I know, I met KnyghtMare online and we
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The most common search queries on this blog have to do with finding a Dominant partner so I have to assume that a lot of you who read here are single and searching for your Dominant. It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant partner adds to the mix of
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My partner and I just went through the strenuous process of apartment hunting and I realized along the way, that there are many similarities between apartment hunting and hunting for a compatible partner. These similarities are applicable both in vanilla and kinky relationships, but I believe, they are more pronounced in kink. When you begin
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Using a dating site to find a partner that is interested in power exchange and BDSM is a difficult prospect. Many people abandon mainstream sites in hopes that kink social networks and other forums will provide them with a partner that is compatible and looking for the same kind of relationship. I feel that the
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When I was a novice submissive I was single and searching for a Dominant to be my playmate, my partner, and my lover. I explored all the places online that existed at the time, many that do not exist now or have been replaced by better sites. I was, in a word, desperate, to experience BDSM
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Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. I’m a submissive crossdresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons I dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I have
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I think the most frequent question on every novices lip is, “where do I go to find people, partners, and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as easy as going down to your
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I’m a female sub, and new to the scene, officially. Unofficially, I have been experimenting with (less than enthusiastic) partners, but now I’m a free agent, and seeking a community! So what’s stopping me you might ask? Well, I have genital herpes, and it deters most people. Do you have any tips for a young
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Just because a person also loves having sex while rolling in jello does not mean they are compatible with you. That’s right, I just said it. You’ve searched the world over for someone interested in the same kinky things you are and when you found one, I’m telling you to hold it right there a
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First date jitters are perfectly normal, but it’s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date. Before any first date, avoid thinking about the countless “what if” scenarios and simply go without any expectations. Unfortunately, the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the first time doesn’t go away for
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Consider for a moment that there is a Dominant that you’ve had your eye on for awhile but you think that s/he may not even know you exist. Do you just wait and hope that they will discover you or do you get the nerve to talk to them? Several of the submissives I’ve talked
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“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.” I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to find
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