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Looking for a Dominant Partner? Do This First! How To Perform a Self-Assessment

Recently, my Master and I listened in on a kink Q&A. I was interested to see what questions people had about kink, especially people seeking guidance. Somewhat surprisingly, most people who tuned in seemed to have questions about relationships more than kink. Many of them were submissives curious about how to look for or embark […]

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7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

By Luna Carruthers / 8 minutes of reading

As a submissive, I was a newbie once. When I entered the lifestyle, I was excited and cautious after learning there was a term for the kinky ideas in my head. It was overwhelming—I wanted to dive into everything at once. Thankfully, a kind Dominant advised me to learn first, and I’ve never forgotten that

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How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

By andyiccee / 5 minutes of reading

Searching for a compatible partner can be frustrating and overwhelming. Using the metaphor of apartment hunting, this article explores how patience, priorities, and realistic expectations play a role in finding a kink-compatible partner, helping readers approach dating and connection with clarity, self-awareness, and less self-blame.

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How to Tell If You Are With a Dominant or Just a Bossy Dick

By Luna Carruthers / 6 minutes of reading

Confidence and authority alone do not make someone a good Dominant. This article explores the differences between ethical dominance and controlling behavior, helping readers recognize healthy leadership, understand the role of consent, and evaluate whether a D/s relationship is built on trust, respect, and mutual agreement.

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A Person is Not Their Kink: Jumping Into Bed With the Wrong Person

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Just because a person also loves having sex while rolling in jello does not mean they are compatible with you. That’s right, I just said it. You’ve searched the world over for someone interested in the same kinky things you are and when you found one, I’m telling you to hold it right there a

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I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like

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7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time, you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost

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The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

I talk a lot about knowing your limits and talking about your limits with your Dominant but I believe this is the first time I’m going to talk about your partner’s limits and what they mean for you. As a refresher, limits are the personal boundaries that we place on ourselves pertaining to our life

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Making the Transition from Online to Face-to-Face Submission When Struggling with Agoraphobia

By ladysneak / 4 minutes of reading

When I first started considering making the jump from being a strictly online submissive to a real life submissive, I really couldn’t find much information written about it. I didn’t let that discourage me because I was ready and determined to move forward. I could find information about being a 24/7 slave but that’s not

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How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

In the previous post about Wants and Needs we began to understand the importance of Needs for ourselves and our relationship. If you would like to go back and read The Importance of Needs to review, please do so. In this post, I’d like to talk about how to express your wants and needs with yourself and

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