compatibility factors

Looking for a Dominant Partner? Do This First! How To Perform a Self-Assessment

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Recently, my Master and I listened in on a kink Q&A. I was interested to see what questions people had about kink, especially people seeking guidance. Somewhat surprisingly, most people who tuned in seemed to have questions about relationships more than kink. Many of them were submissives curious about how to look for or embark […]

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7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

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This entry is part 5 of 19 in the series New to BDSM? Start Here

As a slave (who used to identify as a submissive, who used to identify as a masochistic bottom), I was a newbie at one time (yes, really!!). When I entered the lifestyle, I was wide-eyed, excited, and had a healthy dose of caution just days after learning that there was a word for the kinky

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How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

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My partner and I just went through the strenuous process of apartment hunting and I realized along the way, that there are many similarities between apartment hunting and hunting for a compatible partner. These similarities are applicable both in vanilla and kinky relationships, but I believe, they are more pronounced in kink. When you begin

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Making the Transition from Online to Face-to-Face Submission When Struggling with Agoraphobia

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When I first started considering making the jump from being a strictly online submissive to a real life submissive, I really couldn’t find much information written about it. I didn’t let that discourage me because I was ready and determined to move forward.  I could find information about being a 24/7 slave but that’s not

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How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

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This entry is part 3 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

In the previous post about Wants and Needs we began to understand the importance of Needs for ourselves and our relationship. If you would like to go back and read The Importance of Needs to review, please do so. In this post, I’d like to talk about how to express your wants and needs with yourself and

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