The other day in a submissives only group that I’m in on Facebook, the topic of domestic service came up. The member was new to the lifestyle and had questions about resources specifically for domestic service and asked if there was anyone out there who could help point her in the right direction. Being the […]
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It’s no secret that 50 Shades of Gray is a huge media success. It’s brought about fame for the author and attracted many people to the theaters to see the film adaptation. But it has also brought curious people to this site and many like it for answers and exploration. Many people first get introduced
Discover 9 must-read books on BDSM and D/s relationships that I’ve read more than once. From classic essentials to new gems, these books are perfect for learning and revisiting the world of power exchange.
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As a submissive, I was a newbie once. When I entered the lifestyle, I was excited and cautious after learning there was a term for the kinky ideas in my head. It was overwhelming—I wanted to dive into everything at once. Thankfully, a kind Dominant advised me to learn first, and I’ve never forgotten that
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Hi luna, My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT. I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to. Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect? I have found some information; do you
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Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look. Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there
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In the last month or so I have begun to seek a mentor and have been approached about being a mentor myself, a position which I accepted. As these events unfolded, I experienced a lot of flak from the online community – why would a submissive need a mentor if she already has a Dom?
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some time pulling together the entire year’s count of sales through Amazon.com from Submissive Guide’s links. I wanted to know what you all were reading! And boy is it interesting! Check it out and if you see a book that peaks your interest, head on over through the link and check it out. Your other
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About a month ago, I got an email from a reader telling me that she and her dominant are interested in the Daddy/little girl lifestyle and asked me if I knew of any other online resources other than my previous articles that have appeared here on Submissive Guide. Sadly to say, I didn’t have many
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Hi! My partner and I are both fairly inexperienced in D/s, and we haven’t quite got the hang of how to do a scene. As she says; “I can tie you up alright, but then what?” It’s hard for her to know what to do, and it’s hard for me to know exactly what I
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I am new to a Dom/Sub relationship, for years I chose the wrong men because I was not sure what I needed. I have desired to be a sub for years and now I am acting on it, I have been given this site from Dom Friend who wants me to do some research before we meet. So
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Feeling uncertain about what’s expected of you as a submissive? You’re not alone. This beginner-friendly guide unpacks the realities of D/s dynamics, clears up common myths, and helps you explore your own needs and boundaries. Learn how to talk about expectations with a Dominant, spot red flags, and build a relationship that fits you both. Whether you’ve already entered a D/s relationship or are still figuring things out, this article offers guidance, clarity, and reflection prompts to support your journey. Because submission isn’t one-size-fits-all—and you deserve to feel seen, safe, and empowered in your role.
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There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an
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Since late 2008 FetLife has proven itself to be a valuable resource for those persons looking for kink advice and learning all about fetishes they may not have ever considered. It’s also a good place to make friends with local people and organize events. But since the search capacity is limited it can be very difficult to find
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