BDSM contracts

Is a BDSM contract a must-have?

Full Question: Do you think it is a must to have a contract? I’m not sure I’m comfortable with having one. Answer:  I can understand your hesitation, so let’s get this out of the way right up front: BDSM contracts are not required to have a happy, healthy relationship. Many relationships function just fine without […]

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Contracts as a Road Map to Ever-Evolving Dynamics

This entry is part 4 of 7 in the series BDSM and D/s Contracts

The Mister and I signed on to live in a 24/7 Dominant and submissive dynamic pretty early on in our relationship. Like actually signed on to a physical line stating what we would or would not do in day to day living. I remember vividly drafting up a lengthy contract (about 6 or 7 pages)

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Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts -or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it

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Using Contracts in D/s Relationships

This entry is part 6 of 7 in the series BDSM and D/s Contracts

Contracts are a sticky subject in discussions. I’ve briefly covered it before in  this article. The opinions are all over the place as far as their value or use as a tool for relationships. I can understand why they are a common thread in forums all over the place. A contract is a physical document outlining the

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What You Need To Know About Using Contracts to Negotiate a Relationship

This entry is part 7 of 7 in the series BDSM and D/s Contracts

When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names

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