Question: Why is everything about BDSM/kink sexual? I read a post on FetLife once stating that a play scene could absolutely be non-sexual, but of course, they didn’t give any examples. I have never seen a non-sexual scene. If non-sexual play is possible, then why is almost everyone naked (or close to it) at play […]
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My bf is vanilla but he’s interested in the lifestyle. I have the experience to teach him but I’m a sub. how do I educate him without affecting the power balance or offending him? Hi there! First, good on you for wanting to teach him what you know and for him wanting to learn! Does
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It’s been awhile since I’ve done a refresher on the basics of BDSM. If you are just finding this site, I hope that the wealth of information you see will help you understand yourself and the world in which you are curious. For novices, the word BDSM is a huge scary word. For the experienced,
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In today’s instant culture, the information we want to find can be discovered with just a click of the mouse. It’s fantastic for the kink community because that means more people are discovering this part of themselves earlier and are jumping in with both feet at times. What’s dangerous is that more and more information
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As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dominant is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dominant. If you are playing with a new Dominant and aren’t asked this question, my advice is
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There are so many primers out there about BDSM I’m not sure if another one is really needed. Then again with all the basic questions asked on forums and chat rooms about BDSM, it’s unlikely that my words will not be read by someone and that they will take something new from them. BDSM is
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