I want to be sexually submissive, but equal in day-to-day life. How to find a partner?

By / 2 minutes of reading

This may be easier than you think, dear s-type!  It is important to remember that finding the right Dominant or Top through dating or shopping around can sometimes feel challenging. I liken the vanilla dating pool to a bowl of cereal. Lots of individual options floating around. Now take a spoonful out and in there- […]

I want to be sexually submissive, but equal in day-to-day life. How to find a partner? Read More »

Should you have boundaries with your Dominant, besides safe words?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Yes—absolutely, 100%, without a doubt—you need boundaries. With your Dominant. With your friends. With everyone you have a relationship with. A common misconception in BDSM is that safewords replace the need for boundaries. But the truth is, boundaries and safewords serve very different purposes, and both are necessary. Boundaries are personal. They’re your internal compass—what

Should you have boundaries with your Dominant, besides safe words? Read More »

What is a princess submissive?

By / 1 minute of reading

The “princess submissive” is a unique archetype in the D/s world—graceful, playful, and full of charm. She (or they) brings a sense of elegance and fantasy into submission, blending soft vulnerability with a desire for attention, care, and adoration. A princess submissive isn’t just about being spoiled. It’s about being cherished. These subs thrive on

What is a princess submissive? Read More »

Do you have tips to navigate play for subs who have depression/low self-esteem?

By / 2 minutes of reading

We know submission can be powerful, affirming, and deeply validating—but when you’re carrying the weight of depression or low self-worth, that same vulnerability can feel overwhelming. You’re not alone in this. If you’re not seeing a professional to help improve your mental health, you can find a list of kink-aware therapists at kapprofessionals.org. Navigating play

Do you have tips to navigate play for subs who have depression/low self-esteem? Read More »

Any ideas for Anticipatory Service (I’d like to do more without their asking me)?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Question: I want to do more for my Dom in terms of serving without him asking me. Do you have any ideas? Answer: That’s a wonderful instinct, and it speaks volumes about your desire to deepen your submission and connection. Serving without being asked is often called anticipatory service—and it’s all about tuning into your

Any ideas for Anticipatory Service (I’d like to do more without their asking me)? Read More »

Am I obligated to answer questions about what humiliates me if it embarrasses me?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Question: Last week, in the introductory phase, I had a Domme ask me what humiliates me.  I hesitated to tell her because it also embarrassed me.  Hope that makes sense.   I ended up telling her, but it was very uncomfortable.    What are your thoughts on this question, and am I obligated to answer this?

Am I obligated to answer questions about what humiliates me if it embarrasses me? Read More »

What are your favorite BDSM-related podcasts?

By / 2 minutes of reading

With so many great BDSM-related podcasts out there, it’s easier than ever to learn, grow, and feel connected to the community. Whether you’re looking for educational deep dives, personal stories, or just good conversations about kink, there’s something for everyone. Here are a few of the podcasts I’m currently listening to: Erotic Awakening Podcast is

What are your favorite BDSM-related podcasts? Read More »

Any tips for D/s dynamic with kids at home?

By / 2 minutes of reading

It is really easy to understand managing vanilla relationships around others (including kids living at home). It boils down to understanding one crucial concept: discretion.  Discretion: the quality of behaving or speaking in a way to avoid causing offence or (IMPORTANTLY) revealing confidential information.  We can mostly agree that kissing your spouse “bye” in front

Any tips for D/s dynamic with kids at home? Read More »

How do you know if I’ll enjoy submission if I’ve only been exposed through erotic novels?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Question: I’ve been a voracious reader of BDSM and D/S erotic novels for years and am not sure if I enjoy it just as entertainment or because I feel like something might be missing from my life.  How do you know if you are a submissive, and if you think you might be, how do

How do you know if I’ll enjoy submission if I’ve only been exposed through erotic novels? Read More »

What kinds of punishments and rewards would you implement into a personal protocol as a single submissive?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Full Question: During my research on Submissive Guide, I’ve learned about personal protocol. I don’t have a dom currently and am looking to understand more about punishments and rewards for personal protocol. What kinds of punishments and rewards do you implement into your personal protocol, or would you recommend for a sub without a dom? 

What kinds of punishments and rewards would you implement into a personal protocol as a single submissive? Read More »

Should the non-kinky person make an effort to accommodate the kinky person’s needs and wants even if they are not interested?

By / 2 minutes of reading

Short answer: no. And the kinky person shouldn’t expect you to.  In any healthy relationship, whether kinky or not, communication, respect, and mutual understanding are key. If one partner has specific needs or desires, the other person needs to be open to listening and discussing them, even if they don’t share those interests. However, this

Should the non-kinky person make an effort to accommodate the kinky person’s needs and wants even if they are not interested? Read More »

Scroll to Top
Skip to content