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Ask Subguide: What Do I Have to Offer as a Submissive If I’m Not Service-Oriented?

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

You don’t have to be service-oriented to have something meaningful to offer in a D/s relationship. This article explores the many things submissives bring beyond practical skills, including personality, affection, communication, surrender, curiosity, structure, and emotional connection, while emphasizing compatibility over trying to become whatever you think a Dominant wants.

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Active Submission – Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant

By Luna Carruthers / 7 minutes of reading

Submission is more than permission—it’s an active role in D/s relationships. Learn how to make yourself available to your Dominant and foster a deeper, more open power exchange.

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Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

By Luna Carruthers / 6 minutes of reading

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-10-16 The topic for this article came to me from a reader survey I did over a year ago where I asked you what was most pressing to your at that moment and this question, “must I always wait for my Dom to tell me what to do?” came up.

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Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

When it comes to the idea of topping from the bottom, which I’ve covered several times on the site already, the most common idea that gets bantered about is if asking and requesting something is topping from the bottom. Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that

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Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

It is the people who can do nothing who can find nothing to do, and the secret of happiness in this world is not only to be useful, but to be forever elevating one’s usefulness – Sandra Orne Jewett Reading what I have to say day in and day out can lead you to a

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What is Submission to You?

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything

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The Bare Necessities of a Total Power Exchange Relationship

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

A friend asked me the other day what was necessary in a D/s or TPE relationship in order to make it fulfilling for me. It was quite an interesting question and one I’d like to answer here. First things first; a TPE or Total Power Exchange is where the submissive has surrendered all control to

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