One of the most daunting things we do in our life is knowing you want to change or need to change. We all aspire to improve our lives and wish to take on the challenge to make those changes, but quickly we’ll realize that motivation is the key to that change. You can’t become a […]
Solo-Coaching: Three Key Elements to Fire Your Motivation for Change as a Submissive Read More »
This is part two of The Art of Apology. Would you like to read the previous article first? More often than not, we know the moment that we say or do something that our words and actions are going to merit an apology to someone. Most of us have that voice inside our heads that immediately
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A few months ago, there was a thread started on Fetlife about ethical BDSM and it really caught my attention so I had to check it out. At this time there were only a handful of comments and every one of these comments had said something pertaining to the dominant being responsible for the relationship
Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash Read More »
I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?? We both work full-time but I need routine..any suggestions? He’s asking me to give Him examples and I have nothing.. thank you!! –Lovenvrdies Dear Lovenvrdies, Are you sure you need him to
I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest Read More »
Recently I heard something in the midst of a talk about obedience that just made me stop and really think for a moment – and I mean deep thought too! Delayed obedience becomes immediate disobedience; partial obedience is complete disobedience. Yes, my mind had to reflect on the matter of obedience. Honestly, I can’t say
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Every December as the holidays wane, we start thinking about New Year’s resolutions and ways to make our lives better. The New Year is a fresh start and optimism is contagious. For submissives, though, resolutions mean so much more. Frankly, I’ve decided that the world would be a better place if everyone had a Dom/me
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Goal Setting in a D/s or M/s Dynamic Read More »
Entering into a D/s relationship where you will have rules and behaviors expected of you is a daunting proposition for many submissives. How do you remember all of the rules? How do you remain accountable when you aren’t in the same place as your Dominant? It’s not an instant shift in mindset, but you eventually
Are They In Your Head Yet? – Listening to Your Internal Dom Read More »
In my first few months of submission, I was asked about my ideal relationship by a Dominant friend of mine. It’s something that I still ask novice submissives when they come to me asking how to find a Dominant that they are compatible with. My answer reflected ignorance and misunderstanding. I believed that my ideal
Who Has the Greatest Responsibility in a D/s Relationship? Read More »
