Full Question: Everything is distracting. What can I do to help me focus on my submission and scene time?
Answer:
Distractions can be a challenge, but with some mindful strategies, you can improve your concentration and presence. Here’s some advice to help you stay centered and connected no matter what’s going on around you:
Mind Unwind: Take 15 minutes before you get ready for play to write down everything in your head. Dump it on the page so that it stops buzzing around in your head. Tell yourself that you will deal with the list afterward. Sometimes, this can help you leave the world behind and focus on your submission and playtime.
Pre-Scene Rituals: Establish a pre-scene ritual that signals to your mind and body that it’s time to transition into a submissive headspace. This could be a warm bath, meditation, or even a simple act like putting on a specific piece of clothing or jewelry that holds significance for your submission.
“Scene Bubbles”: Visualize creating a “scene bubble” around yourself and your Dominant. Inside this bubble, only the two of you and the energies you share exist. This mental image can help shield you from distractions and reinforce the intimacy and intensity of your connection.
Play with blindfolds: Turning off your sight during play can help you focus on what’s going on in your personal space. Everything outside the bubble you can’t see, so they stop being a distraction. This has the added benefit of enhancing your other senses.
Check-In with Your Dominant: Communicate openly with your Dominant about your struggles with distraction. They may have specific strategies they’d like to try, or they might adjust the scene to help you maintain focus.
Mental Aftercare: Just as aftercare is essential for the body, it’s also crucial for the mind. After a scene, take time to reflect on what worked and what didn’t. Discuss your experiences with your Dominant to refine your approach for future scenes.
I hope these suggestions serve as a helpful starting point on your journey to deeper focus and submission. If you have any further questions or need additional guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out.