Service-oriented people come from all walks of life and have various skills and knowledge to make them the partners that many crave. When you are a service submissive, demonstrating that you have a few key skills mastered can help strengthen the service dynamic. Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you
Being a submissive in a D/s dynamic can give you many opportunities to explore new things. In my power exchange relationship, that new opportunity was non-sexual service. Our first few experiments were clumsy and crude. Still, we’ve grown to enjoy the moments of service that I provide. It’s changed and deepened our dynamic over time.
In part 2 of the Anticipatory Service series, “Making Mistakes in Anticipatory Service” I recommend finding one area of your dominant’s life to enhance with anticipatory service when just starting out with it in your dynamic. This rule of singular focus creates a smoother transition. In essence, anticipatory service is about being able to see
When I was younger, my parents used to frequent an establishment where everyone knew our family. My parents knew every person on staff by name, from the manager to the janitor. They always hugged the dining room manager with two arms, and the bartender was a trusted friend who had all of their favorite cocktails
The other day in a submissives only group that I’m in on Facebook, the topic of domestic service came up. The member was new to the lifestyle and had questions about resources specifically for domestic service and asked if there was anyone out there who could help point her in the right direction. Being the
This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the
This is a guest post by Tilari of ServiceSubmissive.com Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.” You have a to-do list that is starting to hit triple digits, you’re pretty sure you hung the floggers up on the clothesline instead
In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, but not
This is a guest post by Shahjahani. She is a personal friend of mine and a fantastic educator. I originally heard of these precepts when speaking of death and dying. I elaborated on them then to help myself understand my place in the death and dying process. I shared my thoughts back then with those that
It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins. What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and all of this isn’t new to
Well, there’s not really an App for service. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? However, there are a lot of Apps out there that can make running your household (and your Master!) a lot easier! I just recently discovered the world of Apps. My Master has been a Mac guy for a while now,
This is part two of the Anticipatory Service series, if you’d like to read part one, check out Exploring Service Motivations: How a Mocktail Made Me Service-Oriented. Service exists, like most things, on a spectrum. Real Service, Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny hold that reactive service is at one end of the spectrum, and proactive service is
For the service submissive, one who gets their pleasure from serving in some capacity it’s nice to have a section of your library reserved for books that can help you with improving and utilizing new methods to make your service more complete. I’d love to hear your suggestions for books to include in a service
To complete the series on types of service, today I’m going to cover devotional service. If you’d like a refresher on the other types of service please see the other posts: Devotional service in D/s relationships involves the submissive partner expressing their devotion, reverence, and commitment to the dominant partner through service, worship, or adoration.
Continuing my four-part series on types of submission today will be about positional service. As a reminder, the forms of submission are: Positional service is the most prevalent in non-D/S settings. It is customer service; you are in a position to serve, and so you serve. A set of itemized expectations defines the service. In
This is a continuation of the series on the most common forms of service in a D/s relationship. The forms are: Situational service encompasses conditional service. The submissive serves the Dominant partner based on specific situations or circumstances rather than as part of an ongoing dynamic. Unlike transactional service, which often involves negotiated tasks or
Service can mean different things to different people. Just as submission is different depending on the person and dynamic, so is the type of service that submissive provides. In the list below I have what I call the four types of service that are most common in D/s relationships. I’ve come across several different ways
Every relationship dynamic is different. If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time you have been exposed to some very unique relationships and the submissives in those relationships. There are submissives who are pets, some who are slaves, others who, like you’ve read recently, are hunt sluts for their owners. Today I’m going
The third question I received for March Question Month is: My owner frequently forgets his own deadlines, rules, etc, be them for me or for his own things. how do I help him without being a nag? I have tried setting up calendars, but he forgets to look at them. This can be a challenge,
When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more
