This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area
I am new to a Dom/Sub relationship, for years I chose the wrong men because I was not sure what I needed. I have desired to be a sub for years and now I am acting on it, I have been given this site from Dom Friend who wants me to do some research before we meet. So
As a point of personal opinion, I’d like to define the differences between very basic terms so that there is no confusion as to who I am referring to when I mention either of these terms. I write this guide in my perspective and provide my mentorship and guidance with these terms clearly defined for
When I first started exploring submission I heard and read numerous times that submission is a gift to the Dominant that accepts it. For a long time, I subscribed to this way of thinking and there is nothing wrong with thinking about your submission this way. I’m not here to tell you that you are
Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I consider struggle is actually self-created. That’s
Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that you are submissive, which can be a journey itself, you can figure out how your submission differs from another by what type
Want to know a secret? Submission gets better every day. What makes it so good? I’m not going to tell you any revelations that you probably don’t already know. But here goes. Your personal investment in your future is what makes it better every day. The fact that you follow Submissive Guide to learn and
Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything
I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
Within weeks of the realization that I wanted to be more than a kinky bed partner, I made the personal definitions of submissive and slave. Since then, over 7 years ago they have changed only slightly. So little that I had decided that based on my definitions I could never and would never be a
