Full Question: What are some ideas for keeping long-distance D/s engaged and spicy?
Answer:
Building an engaged long-distance D/s relationship takes a lot of patient work, but with some simple ideas, you can keep your relationship going with lots of connection and spicy play.
First, a long-distance relationship will rely on a lot of communication, so you need to find reliable ways to do that. From chat clients to Discord servers, email, and blogs, you can use various methods to share your thoughts and feelings to feel connected wherever you are.
Rules and Tasks
Establish a routine with daily rules and tasks that remind you of your partner and the relationship.
- Good morning and goodnight texts.
- Daily photos (naughty or nice).
- Change in location or situation texts. Some relationships like to stay in the know and will ask that you message when traveling or have moved to a new place throughout the day.
- Rules around personal hygiene and grooming, clothing, or accessories.
- Time of day tasks – activities or behaviors you do at the same time every day.
Playtime Ideas
Playtime requires creativity, but Zoom or other chat clients with webcam streaming capabilities can help people engage in playtime together.
Discreet play can be wearing butt plugs, hidden rope bondage, and tasks to masturbate in a variety of semi-public places, are a great way to have fun and then report back to your partner what you did (or take pictures/video)!
More playtime ideas are on SubmissiveGuide.com. Search for “long-distance playtime”
Other Ways to Have Fun
You aren’t limited to BDSM or playtime activities when you spend time together.
- Play online games.
- Watch movies simultaneously.
- Read or write stories together.
- Have “subscription box” dates—get an “item of the month” subscription and sample it together. You can also do this with meal subscription boxes and have the same meal together!
- Join a chat room with other like-minded people in the community.
There are many other ways that you and your Dominant can play; ultimately, you’ll find ways that work for you without even realizing that you’ve done so until after the fact.