Is it okay to fall in love with my Dom?

Full Question: Is it okay to fall in love with the dom I am with? And how can I communicate this with my dom?

Answer: 

It is entirely normal for submissives to develop feelings for their Dominants. BDSM relationships can often involve intense emotional connections and trust, leading to romantic feelings. Most relationships are formed because the participants are looking for a romantic partner. If you didn’t talk about the possibility of love when you first negotiated the relationship, then it’s time to bring it up now. 

It’s crucial to communicate openly with your Dominant about your feelings. Your Dominant needs to be aware of your emotional state and be able to navigate any changes in the relationship dynamic. Honesty and open communication are vital for a healthy BDSM relationship.

When telling your Dominant about your feelings, it’s best to approach the conversation calmly and respectfully. Explain your feelings and desires clearly and honestly, and be prepared for your Dominant’s response, whether positive or negative. Remember that their response doesn’t define your worth or value as a person.

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It’s also important to remember that while less common, not all Dominants are open to romantic relationships with their submissives. If your Dominant is not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you, it’s essential to respect their decision and the boundaries of the relationship.

If you are looking for romance and love in your D/s relationship, then make sure you are with someone that is looking for that also. I wish you the best of luck.

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