Full Question: How do I speak to my master about formal etiquette training? I am a collared slave, and I would like there to be a high protocol for days we plan intense scenes.. just so that I can get in the right head space. I don’t want to be pushy, but I crave that type of training so that I can be the best slave for him possible.
Answer:
Good question! First, what do you already know about your partner’s preferences for higher protocol and formal training? Is it something they have expressed interest in? High protocol is a lot of work, and the training to learn formal etiquette takes a lot of work for everyone involved.
If you’re not sure they would enjoy high protocol and formal training, then asking them how they feel about it would be a good first step. Depending on their answers, you’ll be able to move forward. If your partner would like higher protocol moments, then you can tell them about your interest in formal etiquette and why you think it would be a good addition to the days you have intense scenes.
How to present an idea to enhance your Power Exchange Dynamic:
- Be prepared with all the information you can so that you can answer questions.
- Schedule a time to present your request. Important conversations are best done when you both can pay attention to each other.
- Remove distractions. Turn off your phones, tv and occupy the kids somewhere else for a while.
- Ask them if they would be interested in the thing you want. Training is a lot of work for both people in the PE relationship, and they need to be on board with it.
- Allow them to go away and think about it before making any decisions.
If your partner says that they aren’t interested in higher protocol and formal etiquette, then asking them to add something like that may not go over well. For some, higher protocol and etiquette is a kink they enjoy, but it’s not for everyone.
If your partner isn’t interested, it doesn’t mean you can’t learn some formal etiquette. It just means that the training and partner participation may not happen. Ask them if you could research the etiquette you’d like to learn and present to them ways you can add it to your daily life or special occasions that would not require his interaction or engagement. This would make the etiquette and other activities you learn and get approval for a part of your personal protocol, and they would be on you to learn, practice, and make a part of your submission.