Full Question: How can I explain to my wife that while I enjoy being spanked and flogged, it doesn’t mean pain play is my only source of pleasure or intimacy?
Answer:
Your communication with your wife should be open and honest, even about things in the bedroom. It can be difficult for people to talk about sex and intimacy in their relationship, but it really is a skill that everyone should practice!
Ask your partner to make time for a conversation where no distractions will happen. Turn off your phones, send the kids outside, and get ready to talk. This is important because it sets the mood and signals your partner that the conversation is serious.
Bring up the topic with a positive point; for example, you really like that there is pain play in your sex life, and it’s a great way to be intimate together. Tell them something you love about the intimacy you two share. Then, transition to your concern that you enjoy all sorts of pleasure and intimacy, and you want to make sure you both explore all the things that make you feel good with each other. You are human and love variety, and while spankings and pain play are fantastic, you want them to understand that you love the other things you do together, too!
Allow the conversation to flow naturally. Let your partner think about things and respond in their own time. Maybe they’ll come up with questions or request another talk in the future. I hope that you both will be able to enjoy the many pleasures that an intimate relationship can bring.