Full Question: Do dominants normally celebrate their sub’s birthday?
Answer:
Whenever I get asked about what is normal, I’m reminded of a quote from Tori Spelling, “Everybody knows there’s no such thing as normal. There is no black-and-white definition of normal. Normal is subjective.” So, do Dominants celebrate their sub’s birthday? Yes. Or no. It depends.
If you want your birthday celebrated or want not to make such a fuss, you have to say so. Make it a part of your communication cycle with partners. Nothing is obvious, nor should it be assumed. So talk about birthdays and other holidays and your expectations with your partner.
Do you feel a gift is important? Tell them. Do you like to mark the occasion by singing “Happy Birthday,” slightly out of tune, and a candle-lit cake? Say so. It may sound strange to you, but not everyone is on the same page about this kind of thing.
Make time to set clear desires and needs about your birthday and other holidays. This way, you won’t be waiting and hoping for the birthday call first thing in the morning. You’ll have expressed a desire for it. Or you’ll not have to worry about going out on your birthday to be embarrassed by the restaurant staff singing their version of a birthday song and a mediocre piece of cake. Get what you want by telling your partner what you want.
There is no universally recognized answer on if Dominants celebrate their partner’s birthdays. Those expectations are unique to the individuals and, like everything else, should be discussed so that we are aware of our needs.
How do you prefer your birthday celebrated?