What are some ways to satisfy your need to submit if you aren’t with a Dominant?

Full Question: What are some ways to satisfy your need to submit if you aren’t with a Dominant?

Answer: 

I do believe that you can feel submissive without a Dominant, but it’s not easy. There are things you can do to help focus submissive energy in almost everything you do. First, there is no direct substitute for having a partner, so with these ideas, you need to come from it with that in mind. We’re simply trying to find ways to quell the craving so that it doesn’t overwhelm you and to prepare you for a future relationship.

Service to Self: Create self-discipline through personal rules around self-care, fitness, or time management to mimic submission.

Journaling: Maintain a journal to reflect on submissive desires, personal growth, and self-imposed rules or protocols.

Skill Building: Learn new skills (BDSM-related or general) to enhance submission and prepare for future dynamics.

Engage in BDSM Communities: Participate in online or face-to-face BDSM communities for support, education, and connection.

Volunteer: Look for community events or BDSM groups where you can volunteer your time and experience the joy of serving and helping others.

Symbolic Rituals: Practice symbolic acts like wearing a collar or performing small daily rituals to reinforce submissive identity.

Self-Accountability: Set up self-accountability systems with mindful self-punishments or rewards for following protocols.

Mindfulness in Daily Life: Focus on completing everyday tasks with a submissive mindset to create a sense of service.

Explore Power Dynamics in Fiction: Read BDSM-themed fiction or erotica to mentally explore submission and gather inspiration.

Seek a Mentor: Consider finding a mentor or guide for light goals, structure, and advice without the full commitment of a D/s dynamic.

When you are a single submissive it can feel like a lonely place. Every kinky place you go it seems like everyone is already in a relationship and there is no room for you.

But that’s not true; with a few of these tools in your back pocket, being a single submissive can be a special time in your exploration and development.

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