If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. The feeling of completeness when we find the right Dominant. The silencing of all the noise in our minds. The ability to relax knowing that someone we trust is in charge. The love and devotion we feel when we serve.
Would you believe me if I told you the best part of submission is our ability to choose?
Me? I’m a 24/7 submissive, a babygirl, and a masochist, with little tendencies, although I don’t identify as any specific age or age range. I call my Dominant “Daddy” and he’s both a sadist and a bit primal (so am I from time to time). We’ve taken multiple labels, found what worked for us, and incorporated them all into our relationship. And every so often, we learn something new, try it out, and add that in to the mix.
I often refer to BDSM as a kinky buffet. You take a little of this, a little of that, and try them all. You only go back for what works for you. It helps when you and your partner are on the same page about what you like and don’t like, but even when you’re not, you’re able to create something completely unique to you.
Submission is different for everyone.
Find 100 D/s relationships, and you’ll find 100 different ways to do something. No two relationships are alike, and that’s the beauty of it all. We really are all unique little snowflakes in this lifestyle.
Before you reject a label or a type of submission (think slave, furry, little, whatever), look into it at least a little. Read about what those labels really mean. You might still know that you’re definitely not a slave or a kitten, but you might find elements that interest you. Once you do, talk to your partner about how to incorporate those into your relationship.
Try out new things. Experiment and be creative. When you’re done, you’ll have your own brand of submission that’s completely unique to you, and, hopefully, fulfills you in ways you never thought possible.