Full Question: How can I be a bratty submissive so that my Dom enjoys it without losing my submissiveness?
Answer:
Being a bratty submissive can be a challenge!
Brattiness has a broad spectrum from the playful “uppity bottom” to the smart-ass masochist. A brat is a bottom who enjoys struggling against control or challenging the top. Some brats are “testing” their Dominant. Others desire to be “conquered and tamed,” while some simply do not wish to be controlled. On the surface, this is a negative quality in a submissive; however, a certain amount of “brattiness” is enjoyed by some Dominants and may be a significant component of a power exchange relationship.
A smart-ass masochist also called a SAM, is a bottom who doesn’t want to submit but instead challenges or annoys their dominant to entice them into punishing the SAM. A SAM enjoys teasing and egging on a Dominant, and some Dominants enjoy this behavior.
You will need to negotiate with your Dominant about your brattiness. Establish boundaries about what situations are more appropriate for being bratty and when you shouldn’t attempt to push it. Make sure the Dominant you are seeking or are with enjoys being a brat owner because if not, it’s possible that your fun, playful annoyance will come off wrong, and you’ll gain a real punishment instead of the play you were seeking.
Being an ethical brat means you agree to be obedient when your Dominant says, “that’s enough.” Once you’ve been cued into your Dominant’s limit, you should switch back to submissive without brattiness for a while. Basic meditative techniques can assist you. Also, you can establish a trigger word that your Dominant can use to indicate bratty behavior is no longer allowed. Whatever you find works for you to transition out of being bratty.
It works the other way around too. If your brattiness is to only run wild during specific time frames, having that negotiated and what will define the start and end will help you maintain your submissiveness and still allow you to enjoy playful torment with your Dominant.
Whatever you decide, I’m sure you can negotiate a mutually beneficial Brat Owner/brat relationship that will fulfill you.