Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission!
Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?
I’m not a switch in role terms but I can switch when it comes to kinky play. I can’t be Dominant. I can be controlling and manipulative but heck that’s just a bad way to be all around so I don’t do that if I can. To be cool and calm and just be in control is mind boggling. KnyghtMare amazes me every day with how much he is in control of and clearly manages it so well.
When I was married to my first husband I was in control of everything because he allowed it. It left a sour taste in my mouth and I didn’t like it. Sure it was a power trip and I used that and abused it too. I don’t like how I feel when I have that much control in a situation because it drives me to be unkind. I am not an unkind person.
Being a switch in a role capacity will never be for me.
As far as switching in BDSM or kink activities I know I’ve written here about this before but I am KnyghtMare’s kinky service top. Sometimes he gets a desire to experience bondage or sexual teasing and whatnot and I am to give it to him. He still is in control of what goes on but I am to know how to do things and meta-control the scene. I serve him by sharing kink with him from both sides.
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