How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

This entry is part 3 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

In the previous post about Wants and Needs we began to understand the importance of Needs for ourselves and our relationship. If you would like to go back and read The Importance of Needs to review, please do so. In this post, I’d like to talk about how to express your wants and needs with yourself and

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Emily Post Is Right: Basic Manners and Etiquette That Are Useful To Your Submission

Do you think you have a good grasp of good manners and etiquette? We all know someone as an adult that has horrible manners and no etiquette. Learning basic manners is usually done as soon as children can understand you. The ones most pressed upon them are ‘sharing and taking turns’, ‘no staring’, and ‘please

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What Everybody Ought To Know About Basic Needs and Need Deficits

This entry is part 10 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

In the previous post about wants and needs you made a list of your wants and a list of your needs so that you had them defined for your training resume. In this essay, I will share why needs are so important to your overall health and happiness in a relationship and why settling for less than

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Submission By Choice: Learned Submission

This entry is part 19 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Submission has been called a gift. It has been said to be a natural characteristic. Submission is also a choice. When I first entered the lifestyle, no one would have mistaken me for a submissive. I am strong willed, commanding and independent. I have a dominant personality. Nature, society and the way I was brought

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Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

This entry is part 1 of 11 in the series The Submissive Resume

A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout the course

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An Exercise to Help You Distinguish Between Wants and Needs

This entry is part 4 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

Continuing the Wants and Needs Series, this essay is about knowing the difference between wants and needs. If you would like to read the previous essay, please read “ Know What You Want, Learn What You Need.” The difference between wants and needs can be answered in one basic question. Is this something you can live

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The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

This entry is part 20 of 20 in the series Service Submission

When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more

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How to Identify Your Submissive Wants and Needs

This entry is part 5 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it’s always present in their minds: the play, the sex, the love, or the strictness of dominance. Wants are very valid to the happiness in your life, but more important are the needs. When you think of needs, the list seems to

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Start Here: Don’t Begin Exploring BDSM Until You’ve Read the Basics

This entry is part 1 of 19 in the series New to BDSM? Start Here

There are so many primers out there about BDSM I’m not sure if another one is really needed. Then again with all the basic questions asked on forums and chat rooms about BDSM, it’s unlikely that my words will not be read by someone and that they will take something new from them. BDSM is

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For People Looking to Discover Their Submissive Nature

This entry is part 12 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Discovering your submissive nature isn’t always a sudden process. For many people, it takes some soul searching to see that you may enjoy being a people-pleaser or that when someone asks you to do something you happily do it without a second thought. For others, it takes some social reprogramming to allow your full nature

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Exploring Online Submission: Truths, Risks, and Safety Tips

Online BDSM communities and relationships are not a new phenomenon; since the advent of the internet, the world of BDSM has been diverse, offering countless ways for individuals to explore power dynamics and self-expression. In recent years, the growth of online communities dedicated to BDSM and kink has opened up even more opportunities for submissives,

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