An intense and beautiful display of your body and offering yourself for service to your Dominant can be intimate, powerful and elegant. Today we are going to brainstorm ways you can offer yourself to your Dominant with them in mind. There is no proper way to do this, but once you find a way that […]
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We are just over half way through the two weeks of submissive positions here on Submissive Guide. Here’s a review of what we’ve covered so far: Next up is talking about offering your collar. Compared to the other positions we’ve covered this one should be a piece of cake. For some submissives, this may happen
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Welcome to another day of learning and enhancing submissive positions. Today we are going to cover food service etiquette. Some of this may be familiar to you. If this is the case, try to enhance it and make it more personal and unique to your relationship. If you’ve ever been to a more formal restaurant
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In the previous posts we covered basic positions that should now be familiar and perhaps you have worked out in your relationship that you want to employ them. If you need to review you can do that by going to the initial post. Today we will be learning an active position and one that can take
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This is a continuation of the ongoing project for submissive positions here at Submissive Guide. Today we will cover bowing and curtsying. Every culture has a different way to show respect and acknowledge a title holding member of their society. I believe most of them us a form of bow or curtsy to honor that respect. Yes,
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The next part of this two week series is about getting up from the floor. You’ve already learned about kneeling, standing at attention and lowering yourself with grace. Stick around, we have a lot to learn. If you’ve ever watched Memoirs of a Geisha you have seen how graceful it can be to rise from the floor, appealing and
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We have covered standing and kneeling so far in the positions project here at Submissive Guide. Today we will cover going from standing to kneeling in a graceful way. It’s not as easy as you think. First you have to pick out one kneeling posture and one standing posture from the previous posts. This way you know how you are starting
Today’s challenge in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is all about standing at attention. One of the most common ways you can present yourself as submissive to a Dominant is by the way you stand. You may do it now even though you don’t have any specific rules as to how to stand. Pay
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Day 1 of ‘2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions’ starts with learning to kneel. Discover how to perfect your posture and embrace kneeling as a meaningful act in your D/s dynamic.
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Submissive Positions are talked about all over like everyone is supposed to be doing them or something. Not every relationship is set up to provide that level of protocol and you should never expect a relationship to automatically have that. If you are interested in positions, ask your partner or prospective partner if they’d be
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When you enter the local BDSM community one of the events you may be exposed to is a play party. A play party is an essentially a party where BDSM play can occur. Groups hold parties as a way to learn and educate on safe play methods, chat about topics and generally hang around. Parties
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Want to be a better submissive? Start with these 10 simple tips to improve your submission and service in your D/s dynamic. Practical, easy-to-follow advice for all levels!
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Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What
Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship who volunteered to write an essay for me after seeing the Weekly Tips on YouTube. Thank you, Skylerpet! She has since written another short piece specifically on Human Pets, which you can read here. Pet play is one of the most unique, least
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If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don’t rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not
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Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them.
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One of the first questions a new submissive asks themselves is are they normal for desiring the things they do. This could be kinky sex, humiliation or service. Anything that appears to fall outside the vanilla umbrella can cause a novice to question if they are normal. This, in fact, is normal. Everyone questions themselves
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Submissives all around will identify with one or more of these terms: discipline, obedience, structure, and rules. I’m a submissive that needs structure. With structure can come rules, and that’s how my submission best functions in my dynamic with KnyghtMare. I serve him by actively following the rules that govern the structure of my day.
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The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training
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There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM, newbies are sometimes recommended to pick up a mentor but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started, there were good people to be around and not-so-great people that left
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