It’s been awhile since I’ve done a refresher on the basics of BDSM. If you are just finding this site, I hope that the wealth of information you see will help you understand yourself and the world in which you are curious. For novices, the word BDSM is a huge scary word. For the experienced, […]
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The excitement of a new D/s relationship is often the first thing that a novice submissive seeks. How else are they going to learn about play, and submission than in a relationship, they might reason. There is a better, more prepared way than jumping into a relationship with someone before you are ready. Taking the
Know Thyself, Don’t Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things Read More »
When I started my journey into submission, my perceptions of what a submissive was were very shallow and incomplete. I believed being submissive was a passive personality trait, and it didn’t require much ‘work.’ That passivity encouraged the laziness I had fostered in my previous marriage. Now, I’m far more aware that a submissive is
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This guest post is a honeymoon gift from mi_vida. Let’s face it, we all have fears. I’ll be the very first person to admit it! In fact, I’ll do you one better and let you know I, literally, have a crap ton of fears. Well, the official ruling is still in debate within the scientific
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I got engaged to my Master, Grimly, in September 2009. The engagement itself was pretty kinky since this took place at a fetish party that occurred whilst we were staying with like minded friends in Canada. Our engagement party ended up with me being dressed up as a schoolgirl, then as a maid, then in
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This guest post is a honeymoon gift from Agog. The one thing I have learned since I started nosing around in BDSM is that I don’t know myself nearly as well as I thought I did. I thought it was all about sex, that what I felt was missing was something physical, but as I
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This guest post is a honeymoon gift from MGbunny. Time is not always our friend more so if you work outside of your Tops home and have chores to do upon returning home from work, needing to make time to cook dinner as well. It then becomes the question of how to make real food,
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It’s happened to the best of us. You and your partner got a little frisky the other day and now you have a few bruises that haven’t faded yet. Your Doctor’s appointment is this afternoon, what do you do? First of all, don’t panic. Then, don’t cancel your appointment until you have read this post.
Going to the Doctor with Kink-Related Marks or Bruises Read More »
Dirty talk can unlock deeper connections and sizzling pleasure in your relationship. Explore this beginner’s guide to overcome fears, learn tips, and master sexy talk in the bedroom.
Moans, Groans, and Beyond: A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk Read More »
In today’s instant culture, the information we want to find can be discovered with just a click of the mouse. It’s fantastic for the kink community because that means more people are discovering this part of themselves earlier and are jumping in with both feet at times. What’s dangerous is that more and more information
Making Assumptions: Try to Learn Everything and Make Sure Your Partner Knows Too Read More »
There is a sense of rightness to the act of kneeling before one’s Master, a serene feeling of belonging and worship that is unique and special to each dynamic but what’s a girl to do when she can’t kneel? How else can you get that same sense of peace and connection? As someone with 2
Keep In Good Standing – A Tip For Submissives Who Can’t Kneel Read More »
Recently in the chat room here on Submissive Guide, there has been a discussion about emotional dependence on our Dominants and the relationship. Just about every relationship has to have interdependence in order to thrive. After all, if we continue to maintain an independent life there’s really no development of a relationship is there? In
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Presented with the dilemma of being outspoken, independent and strong-willed when submissive desires crop up, what do you do? Are these personality traits incompatible? I’m here (and living proof) that no, they are not. You can be all of these things and still be submissive. A Dominant friend of mine explained it best, “You’re a strong submissive
Strong-Willed and Opinionated: Can I be Submissive? Read More »
As a woman, wife, and sub I often times feel like the weight of the world rest with me. In every relationship, there is give and take and a D/s relationship is no different. Who bears the brunt of the responsibility? As a submissive, our existence is solely to please our master, although often passed
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There is some recent discussion of “breaking a slave” going on on the popular social network, FetLife right now. I’m watching it spread across the groups that I’m in and thought I’d not chip into those discussions but share my thoughts and opinions on it right here. These are not the only interpretations and I
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I had originally planned to write about a different topic, was well on my way in developing the article, then I realized at some point that I kept coming back to just what is honor and integrity? So here we have it my exploration on the subject… Honor and integrity, we say and hear these
Being About It: Honor and Integrity as a Submissive Read More »
A slave I admire wrote a blog on how she felt she had changed since she met her Master. She wanted to go back to the more outgoing, social being she had been before she met Him. After all, she pointed out, this was what had attracted Him to her in the first place. This
Changing for Master While Honoring and Maintaining Ourselves Read More »
Before I entered a D/s relationship masturbation was a regular recreational activity for me. It was also private. Even when I was married I didn’t masturbate in front of him or let him know when I was taking care of myself. It just wasn’t something I shared. Neither did he. And then I committed myself
How Masturbation Changed in My D/s Relationship Read More »
So you’ve discovered kink and want to try some things out. You talk to your partner about it. Unfortunately, no matter how you suggest things to your partner they aren’t interested. They are really vanilla. It may be obvious that I’m not talking about the ice cream flavor here, but if you are really a
How many times have you heard a submissive say how he/she loves to be told they are a “good girl/boy” by their dominant? Yet how many times have any of them been able to pin point the why of the effect it has on them? What is it about those words from their dominant that differs from
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