This is a guest post by tlbsab. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake, but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is huge. In the Vanilla world, we call it gun-shy […]
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Sub fever, also known as sub frenzy is an often misunderstood condition for novice and well-seasoned submissives. While experienced submissives can learn to recognize the symptoms, most novices are oblivious to the issues at hand. What is sub fever? Do you remember when you first discovered BDSM and submission and all of a sudden that
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I was asked in email a while ago about how safe BDSM groups are for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed. It’s a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I’d share with you what I had to say to this person. Here’s their
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Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the marriage. I know I was raised
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This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab! First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to offend anyone and is meant for information only. Religion is the basis of our relationship and is the reason that our lifestyle works for our family. I
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This is an entry into A Day in the Life series. Than you nan{SL}! My Master moved to my farm in September. Before that, my typical day was going to work, playing with my dog, and texting and emailing my Master all the day long. I would plan some weekend lifestyles events with Him, get
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Because of the content of this post, I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor
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So the series is going quite well and I thought that it was time to share with you what an average day in service to KnyghtMare is like for me. I’ve had many people who know me in real life say that my life is interesting and it’s higher protocol than most people have. I
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This is part of the A Day in the Life Series. Thanks DarlingDoll! I am a brat. I am a mouthy loud-mouthed impatient bent kinky little brat who has gone through phase after phase to amuse myself with one constant. My Daddy. Together he and I have shared tattoos, shaved heads, pink Mohawk’s, and blue
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This is a guest post by Autumn Raine Skye for the Day in the Life Series. I’m a submissive, and I also consider myself a slave. My Master, who is also my husband, had not heard of any aspect of BDSM until I brought it up to him. So we are fairly new to all
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This is a guest post by Pam for the Day in the Life Series. As a new submissive, I am constantly seeking out new information. Scouring the internet has almost become an addiction. With each new article, I read I can find others to dispute it. I have come to realize the journey for me
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straightforward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader.
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Open communication is complicated by shyness. Addressing that shyness could help you open up to your partner and others instead of the social discomfort you constantly feel. But what is shyness and how does it manifest? You can get over being shy and start living your life free from social awkwardness. Then your submissive communication
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It’s one of those questions people always ask, isn’t it? What got you into BDSM? Or into D/s? Some people think it is to do with their nature from birth, others think it is how they are nurtured and what they experience in life. I think perhaps I am somewhere between the middle in my
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This is a guest post by Camryn Darkstone. Virtual worlds have opened a door to BDSM for many people, allowing them to explore their curiosity about it in a fantasy environment. People who would never do so in “real” life can try on handcuffs, be chained and bound, and even submit to a Dominant, all
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This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and
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Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why
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This is part two of the Anticipatory Service series, if you’d like to read part one, check out Exploring Service Motivations: How a Mocktail Made Me Service-Oriented. Service exists, like most things, on a spectrum. Real Service, Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny hold that reactive service is at one end of the spectrum, and proactive service is
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Every few months I take a look at what BDSM related books readers of the Submissive Guide community are buying at Amazon (according to the reports Amazon give us from our affiliate program*). Today I spent some time digging into the purchases of BDSM books and have compiled the following breakdown of best selling books
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Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives, we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from Wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to
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