This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straightforward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader. […]
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Open communication is complicated by shyness. Addressing that shyness could help you open up to your partner and others instead of the social discomfort you constantly feel. But what is shyness and how does it manifest? You can get over being shy and start living your life free from social awkwardness. Then your submissive communication
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It’s one of those questions people always ask, isn’t it? What got you into BDSM? Or into D/s? Some people think it is to do with their nature from birth, others think it is how they are nurtured and what they experience in life. I think perhaps I am somewhere between the middle in my
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This is a guest post by Camryn Darkstone. Virtual worlds have opened a door to BDSM for many people, allowing them to explore their curiosity about it in a fantasy environment. People who would never do so in “real” life can try on handcuffs, be chained and bound, and even submit to a Dominant, all
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This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and
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Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why
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This is part two of the Anticipatory Service series, if you’d like to read part one, check out Exploring Service Motivations: How a Mocktail Made Me Service-Oriented. Service exists, like most things, on a spectrum. Real Service, Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny hold that reactive service is at one end of the spectrum, and proactive service is
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Every few months I take a look at what BDSM related books readers of the Submissive Guide community are buying at Amazon (according to the reports Amazon give us from our affiliate program*). Today I spent some time digging into the purchases of BDSM books and have compiled the following breakdown of best selling books
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Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives, we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from Wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to
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I was once an online submissive. I know a bit about the language and grammar rules that reside there. They are creative and interesting and serve their purpose online. When you bring them into real life they get more annoying, but in some relationships and dynamics, they still serve their purpose. What language adjustments am
As a parent of 2 children and the active property of my Owner and Husband, I thought perhaps it was time to begin writing some about the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and experiences of the parent slave. I was surprised when I first began writing about this topic that no one
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As always the views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. I write about what I know and what I know is me and my journey. As the old saying goes it’s not over until the fat lady sings. In this instance the fat lady would be me, a few
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Hi, my name is Laney and I am a hug slut. I admit it, I love a good hug. As such, imagine how hard it was for me, entering the world of BDSM where a hug in greeting is not always possible. At my dungeon, like all dungeons, we have a set of rules that
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This is a guest post by Dara. What is Kajira? If you had asked me that 4 months ago I would have had no clue. Slave girl? Now there’s a term I recognized, and if you had made the suggestion that I would one day in the very near future submit myself to becoming someone’s
This has always been a fascinating subject for me. Humiliation, for many, is a large – perhaps even important – part of their D/s dynamic. For these people, there can be a very strong desire to be humiliated. But what is humiliation? We’ve all experienced embarrassment from time to time and have a fairly good
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There are birthdays and anniversaries, holidays and special occasions of all sorts and when a submissive wants to shower their Dominant with gifts it can be a challenge on what to get them. If you are like me, you don’t have your own money and any that you ask for you have to quantify with
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Rarely have I heard of an end of a relationship being good, civil yes, but good? Yet I have heard on numerous occasions that relationship ends can be bad and others very bad. What makes some of these horrible is the immaturity of the people involved and what that causes them to do. I have
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Online BDSM relationships come in many different flavors. As I’ve explored before, they can be a good novice outlet for learning more about yourself in a safe, relatively anonymous environment. I started out in an online relationship only because the fear of being kinky (and an unwilling husband) kept me locked behind my computer. I
When You’re Left to Beating Yourself Up – Online SM at a Glance Read More »
There are a lot of things on the internet talking about topping from the bottom as being a bad submissive thing. It’s made people terrified that everything they do could be crossing that terrible line. It’s not true. I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll say it again. Bottom topping isn’t as bad as it is hyped. First,
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Submission – it’s hard work. For the 24/7 types it’s an all the time thing. So what happens if you wake up one day and you don’t feel like submitting? You could voice it as a break or get really cranky every time you are asked to perform your duties as a submissive. If you are
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