“What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for many of us, it is not sufficient to simply bury our desires and needs for BDSM submission. This article will discuss how to approach your partner the […]
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A common derogatory word used in submissive circles is “doormat” as in, you don’t want to be a doormat submissive. Rarely is it talked about beyond saying that you should not let your Dominant walk all over you. I agree of course, but for the inexperienced, understanding what that really means can come after being
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Discover creative ways to use pervertables in BDSM play. Learn how to find, evaluate, and safely use everyday household items as BDSM toys for impact play. Explore fun, unique alternatives to traditional kink tools with practical tips and ideas for transforming everyday objects into pervertables.
Pervertables: Transforming Household Items Into BDSM Toys Read More »
I am a high maintenance submissive. I’m well aware of the work that my Master has to constantly do to keep me happy and to keep him well-pleased. I’m not ashamed of it because that is who I always have been and he loves me for it. He even encourages some of it. Much of
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Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything
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The other day and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel
Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive? Read More »
This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7
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Some friends of mine had mentioned that they were unable to find “their One.” Now, some of these friends are tops; some are bottoms. But all indicated their lack of ability to meet a D/s partner that fit them well. Read More: 7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant As I mulled over the
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You Read More »
This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I
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Over the years I have had quite a few online names and aliases. Some have stayed with me, some haven’t. Some should never have existed in the first place because they were just *bad* Choosing a scene name is one thing if it is only ever going to be used online, but it takes a
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One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper-class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to help them with these tasks. In fact
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Throughout history, people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, a ceremony that comes from other
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You’ve been doing the same ole’ kinky sh*t since the beginning and it’s getting old. Really old. So what do you do about it? Does it mean that you have to just keep replaying the record over and over and that nothing will be exciting again? Hardly. Every relationship experiences periods of boredom in the
Keeping It Fresh – How to Spice Up Your Kinky Life Read More »
Table Manners-from the things no one should have to say, to the things that you may not have even known. There are many times that we will share a meal with someone. Bad manners or exceptional manners will ALWAYS get attention while acceptable ones may go unnoticed. But, this is such an easy way to
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In a play party last night I witnessed a poor novice woman with intense marks on her abdomen and kidney area. The oblivious novice Top that did this to her was stopped by a Dungeon Monitor but the woman said when asked, that the marks were no big deal and that she’s had kidney punches
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This is a guest post by tlbsab. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake, but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is huge. In the Vanilla world, we call it gun-shy
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Sub fever, also known as sub frenzy is an often misunderstood condition for novice and well-seasoned submissives. While experienced submissives can learn to recognize the symptoms, most novices are oblivious to the issues at hand. What is sub fever? Do you remember when you first discovered BDSM and submission and all of a sudden that
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I was asked in email a while ago about how safe BDSM groups are for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed. It’s a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I’d share with you what I had to say to this person. Here’s their
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Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the marriage. I know I was raised
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This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab! First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to offend anyone and is meant for information only. Religion is the basis of our relationship and is the reason that our lifestyle works for our family. I
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