Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life. Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a […]
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Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I consider struggle is actually self-created. That’s
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Not too long ago, my pup and I were faced with something that rears its ugly head to everyone-lifestyle or not. The dreaded “outside force.” What is this intruder you may ask? Well, it is anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing; it is never welcome and always has to be handled
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Self-worth is inherent in all of us. We gather our own opinions about ourselves and based on what we think other people think of us. I had a tendency to rate myself, at say five or six on a scale from one to ten, in terms of how worthy I was. Worthy of happiness, success, joy,
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My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information would feel like a disaster but
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Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done. It is not something one does lightly and shouldn’t be something someone does without thought and consideration to all the factors involved. It is something that I have recently had to do –
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It can be quite obvious what the goal of orgasm on command training is, but there are so many things you can do with that goal to make it interesting and exciting for everyone involved. I’m going to talk about a few things that I learned about while doing the research for my own training,
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Once you’ve decided to enter an orgasm on command training, it can help to learn what the submissive goes through to wire their brain so that they can hold back their orgasm to when you wish them to have it. It’s not easy. If you want to read the introductory article, check out Initial Steps Into
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Unlock the power of your mind with orgasm control training. Learn how to embrace the possibility of non-physical pleasure as a submissive and master on-demand ecstasy.
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Why do Dominants insist on being called Sir? That was a question posed not that long ago in an online community that I belong to. They wanted to know why so many insist on being called Sir. Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol?
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KnyghtMare enjoys a foot massage on what used to be a regular basis. Every Sunday night I would fill the plastic tub with hot water and salts to soak his feet before his massage. After they had soaked I would towel them off and then with massage oil or lotion would lovingly massage his feet.
In part 1 of this series of articles, we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3, we examine how to proceed if your vanilla partner reacts positively
Well, there’s not really an App for service. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? However, there are a lot of Apps out there that can make running your household (and your Master!) a lot easier! I just recently discovered the world of Apps. My Master has been a Mac guy for a while now,
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Would you normally hesitate to schedule in time or appointments with just about every person in your life? Well now is the time to change that up a bit. Pull out your schedule right now and plan your first few solo coaching meetings with yourself. That’s right – just you. We are going to work
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If you ask someone what the foundation of any relationship is they are likely to say one of three things. They are likely to say communication, compromise, and trust. Today I’m going to talk about trust. The word is thrown around a lot but many submissives I talk to have issues with trust and how
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I was talking with a Dominant the other day about safe calls and how I feel that they are vital for a novice submissive when meeting someone new, especially when they are so inexperienced in the lifestyle as most tend to be. What he said in response, floored me. I’m paraphrasing here, “I don’t like
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Imagine this. You are bombarded with private messages from every Dominant in a 500 mile radius offering their control for your submission, usually only of the sexual kind. They send you penis pictures and say they are a true Master with two-times the years experience than they are old. Not hard to imagine? You mean
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What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some, it is a new beginning of a journey. For others, it is a step in the training process. It all depends on the Dominant you are with. For every Dominant has a different way of doing things.
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We can all probably say that we have dreamed of not having to work for a living. It may even be your dream to be a stay at home submissive but don’t see that ever happening for you. There are a few of us, like myself, who get to live the “dream.” The reason I
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The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms up out of the way to
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