Is it possible to have a need for submission? I’m in an amazing “vanilla” relationship, with a past of D/S for both of us. We both know of the other’s past, and recently began to incorporate some D/S components to our relationship. The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s not just […]
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Trust is a big factor in all relationships. I would even go as far to say that trust is an even bigger factor in D/s and M/s relationships than most others, but I could be wrong. How do you know when you really trust someone? I know a lot of people out there say they
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Hi Luna, I was reading your post about the gift of submission. I thought it was very eye opening. I took your eCourse and it really helped but I am still very confused and feeling overwhelmed. Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that I
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What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Some examples of common rituals are greeting rituals where the submissive meets the dominant
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Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t use to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still isn’t. Personally, I am not a very organized person and
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We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and manners online. I’ve also been caught up in the anonymity that talking
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive Read More »
Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship. Why? There are many reasons but the most important one is being safe not only with your partner but more importantly with yourself. Consent is
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Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care
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I’m going to take a bit of liberty in my assumption here but bear with me for a moment. When you first learn about submission and what it might entail it is likely you are learning about bedroom submission and the pleasures of serving the sexual and sensual needs of your partner. Oftentimes these submissives
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This is a guest post by Shahjahani. She is a personal friend of mine and a fantastic educator. I originally heard of these precepts when speaking of death and dying. I elaborated on them then to help myself understand my place in the death and dying process. I shared my thoughts back then with those that
BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service Read More »
I’ve never been a submissive but my new boyfriend is a professionally trained Dominant that has been in the lifestyle for many years. I knew this about him before we started dating and told him I could accept it in our relationship. He’s ready to incorporate this but I find it utterly ridiculous to get
Kneeling Feels Absurd, How Do I Get Over It? Read More »
You’ve finished the book! I definitely want to know what you thought about it in the comments. The last chapters were excellent as far as working through surrender, negotiation, discussing abuse, 24/7 living and staying on track. I think these chapters had more bulk to them than previous ones as far as necessary content. Here
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Want to know a secret? Submission gets better every day. What makes it so good? I’m not going to tell you any revelations that you probably don’t already know. But here goes. Your personal investment in your future is what makes it better every day. The fact that you follow Submissive Guide to learn and
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Welcome to week 2 of the book club event! This week’s reading was intense and meaty, trust me I know! I had to read it twice in order to get everything out of it that I wanted to. What are you thinking about the book so far? The reading this time had to do a
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It may not be clear to others by now but I’m pretty good at asking myself questions and asking questions for reflection with others. It’s how much of the topics I write come to be. I ask myself a question and then try to answer it. It’s an art that I’ve had to learn because
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When it comes to the idea of topping from the bottom, which I’ve covered several times on the site already, the most common idea that gets bantered about is if asking and requesting something is topping from the bottom. Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that
Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below Read More »
Hi, everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. If you want to read the book at a later time, I suggest you skip this book club series – as I can’t promise there won’t be “spoilers.” Then again, this
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It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins. What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and all of this isn’t new to
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Last week I told you the exciting news; Submissive Guide will be hosting a month long book club event on one of my favorite and most recommended books about submission, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. I hope all of you rushed off and ordered your book because today we start reading! Please read the forward,
Start Reading “Conquer Me” for Submissive Guide’s First Ever Book Club Event! Read More »
I’ve wanted to hold an online book club event on Submissive Guide for quite some time and if you are a member of the Club you may have noticed a book club group there. This is the first book club event that I’m holding through the blog and I hope many of you will follow
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