Today is day 15 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being submissive, we often forget that our needs are important and may even push them aside so that we can focus only […]
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Today is day 14 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am afraid. I am afraid that so many novice submissives will not reach their full potential because of fears they will
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Today is day 13 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This, friends, is going to be a hard task. But trust me, by the end of it you will have learned something
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Today is day 12 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am often asked if being submissive means you have to be humble, meek and reserved. It always puzzles me to think
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Today is day 11 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. In the book club event we did this fall we read “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. She has some very wonderful stories and words if
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Today is day 10 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Lines are longer, there are more drivers on the road, the snow is falling and kids are a bit more excited than
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Today is day 9 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. “True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupery I’ve asked in
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Today is day 8 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I know that one of the hardest things for me to do is to accept a compliment. I am not the only
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Today is day 7 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. As submissives, we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit. One of the most frequent suggestions I hear
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Today is day 6 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This is a simple moment for you today. Consider the following question. When are you most aware of being owned/submissive? Once you
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Today is day 5 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Whenever I’m writing I have to have music going. It’s like food for my thoughts I think. It has to be a
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Today is day 4 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being rewarded for our submission often feeds our pleasure center once in a while but it’s not required. We all know this
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Today is day 3 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. No matter where we are in our submissive journey, whether that be mere days into the discovery or years of experience we
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Today is day 2 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. There are moments in our life where we can lose sight of why we are submitting, or we can’t grasp that warm
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Welcome to the first day of Submissive Advent. Every day we’ll learn more about ourselves, our relationship or perspective relationships and our submission. Shakespeare has a couple of sonnets that are often used as poems of submission and service. Today, I’d like to share Sonnet 57: Being your slave what should I do but tend
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The Advent is the time in anticipation for Christmas and is celebrated in some religious circles, but also carries a secular following. Advent translated means “the coming.” I’m sure everyone has seen the cardboard calendars with little doors and chocolate inside; to be opened one a day until Christmas Day. Well, I’ve had this idea of
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A presenter I saw recently said that as a master, the first thing he does is to ask for his new s-type to fill out one of those online “sexual interest” lists where you rank your kink interests on a scale from zero for “Yes, please,” to five for “Oh, HELL no.” Then he takes
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Did you know that how you see the world isn’t what makes your life positive or negative, it’s how you interpret your life’s events that can turn the glass half full to half empty? Your skill in interpreting events and experiences for better or worse lies in your hands. Oftentimes as submissives we tell ourselves
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Is it possible to have a need for submission? I’m in an amazing “vanilla” relationship, with a past of D/S for both of us. We both know of the other’s past, and recently began to incorporate some D/S components to our relationship. The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s not just
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Trust is a big factor in all relationships. I would even go as far to say that trust is an even bigger factor in D/s and M/s relationships than most others, but I could be wrong. How do you know when you really trust someone? I know a lot of people out there say they
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