Full Question: I’ve heard many articles or podcasts discuss munches, but I have a hard time finding any near me or articles/discussions on where to find your people or meetups. I’m coming up short! Any advice on how to find a community of like-minded people to connect with?
Answer:
There used to be many places to find munch directories, and while there are still a few active local group websites, they’re not as common anymore. Even a simple search online doesn’t provide the answers it used to.
The majority of BDSM groups are on FetLife. FetLife is a social platform for kinky people. It’s a huge site and can be overwhelming for new people, so use it cautiously. Use the search bar to find groups in your area and explore the events section, which automatically sorts by distance from your set location. Many local BDSM communities use FetLife to organize and promote their activities. While FetLife isn’t for everyone, if you use it for just one thing, it should be to find and connect with your local community.
Also, Subreddits such as r/BDSM or r/BDSMcommunity can be useful for connecting with others and finding information about local groups and events. I have less experience with Reddit, but I know people from our Discord community who have had success finding people and events there.
Sometimes, finding your local group means extending the distance around you. If you’re not in a larger suburban area, search for a community in the nearest higher-population area.
If that’s still not yielding results, and if you are adventurous enough, you could post your own event and perhaps see who attends! You just may find that a small group of people was waiting for someone to bravely host a munch.
Finally, other places that may be able to help you find the local BDSM scene are Facebook, local sex shops, and LGBTQ+ centers that often have resources for alternative lifestyles like BDSM.
I wish you luck.