Full Question: I’m trying to find my first munch meeting in NY area. How can I know if it’s safe, and where can I find one?
Answer:
Getting out and meeting kinky people face-to-face can be so intimidating. I understand the desire to make sure that you are walking into the safest environment possible.
First, for those who don’t know the term, a munch is a social gathering of kinky people in a public or semi-public place. The many I’ve attended have been at restaurants, in restaurant private event rooms, and at bars.
Each munch is unique, and the safety measures may vary. It’s crucial to do your due diligence, trust your judgment, and prioritize your well-being when deciding to attend.
- Research the Munch: Look for information online, such as FetLife or social media groups and read reviews or talk to people who have attended previous munches hosted by the same group. This will give you an idea of the munch group’s reputation.
- Contact the Organizer: Reach out to the organizer of the munch and ask them questions. Find out if there are any rules or guidelines for attendees. A responsible organizer will be open to answering questions and meeting with potential new members.
- Make sure the munch is being held in a public venue. Public spaces tend to have better security and are less likely to tolerate any inappropriate behavior. Avoid attending munches held in private residences or locations that might raise concerns about privacy and security.
- Attend with a Friend: If possible, consider bringing a trusted friend. Having someone familiar by your side can provide extra comfort and support. You can look out for each other and have someone to talk to if you feel too uncomfortable during the munch.
- Trust your instincts: Listen to your gut. If something feels off or you have any reservations after researching and talking to the organizer, it’s okay to reconsider. Your safety and comfort should always be your top priority.
As to wear to find one, the main hub of munches and other events these days is FetLife.com. You can search events based on your location or find groups near you that might host events you’re interested in.
Good luck, and enjoy getting to know the local kinky community!