How do I know if I’m a Switch or just a brat?

Full Question: How do I know if I’m a Switch or just a brat? Because I know I enjoy being dominated, but the other part is what confused me. I’m confused if what I thought of as ‘enjoy to dominate’ is just me being a brat. There are times that I do like having control, but a part of me also likes to be dominated. 

Answer: 

How do you know if you fit into any fluid labels like the ones we tend to have in BDSM? Labels used to be a bit more rigid, but lately, they’ve had personal interpretations applied. I appreciate the relaxing of role definitions, but it’s such a confusing time for novices. It’s most important that you find the definitions that work for you and that how you feel about them aligns with your identity.

A brat is a bottom or submissive who enjoys misbehaving for attention and punishments, struggling against control, or challenging the top. The key to being a brat is that submissive brats are not dominating their partner. They are not in control. They very clearly have boundaries that they brat within and that their partners will accept. Brats are great at walking right up to that line but not going over. They would never try to force their Dominant’s hand to change decisions. In the end, they are still submissive to their partners.

There are also Dominant brats, but they aren’t as common. I am unfamiliar with how a dynamic works if the Dominant is a brat.

You could be a bratty submissive and a switch. You don’t need to have these labels nailed down right away. As long as you figure out what situations you want to be bratty and what times you want to be dominant. 

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