Submission often begins as a want—but for many, it becomes a core need. This reflection explores how everyday challenges can highlight the importance of power exchange, why acknowledging submission as a need strengthens your dynamic, and how to communicate that truth with your Dominant.
Talking to Your Dominant: When A Desire Becomes a Need Read More »
The other day, one of my friends on Facebook messaged me and asked me if she could ask me a question. Of course I told her yes and then she began to furiously type her question to me. After I read her situation, I asked her if I could reply later. I was in class
There’s No Size Limitation to Being Kinky Read More »
The other day, my little sister gentlerayne, sent me a text message. She told me that I needed to check out this post in a Fetlife group. And boy, was she angry. Being angry isn’t her normal behavior. She’s very soft-spoken and a gentle soul. I knew whatever made her angry, was probably gonna irritate
Being a Little Doesn’t Come with a Size or Age Limitation Read More »
I have this habit whenever I read something that has hyperlinks in the article, I tend to open those hyperlinks. This causes me to usually have anywhere from 10-20 tabs open in my browser. But anyways, I was reading something and it led me to a website. At the same time, I was reading the
BDSM Isn’t Just About Power Exchange Read More »
It was like any other morning. Daddy and I had finished eating breakfast and both of us were getting ready to start our day. Daddy was using the bathroom and I was wandering around the apartment, forcing myself to change out of my comfy pajamas and into regular clothes for class. While I’m changing, there’s
A Simple Act of Submission Isn’t Always So Simple Read More »
The other day, I was all curled up on the couch browsing Facebook on my tablet. I’m scrolling and scrolling, and scrolling some more until something catches my eye. It’s a photo someone posted in a submissives only group that I’m in. I had scrolled past it a little so I found it again. I
Some Misconceptions about the Caregiver/Little Dynamic Read More »
I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that
Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community Read More »
For those of you who are avid Red Phoneix fans, she’s at it again. She’s currently working on the third installment of the Brie series, Submissive in Love. While I was reading the second novella, Brie’s Denver Desires, a passage at the end of the book grabbed my attention and wouldn’t let go. “Sir, you’re
Reciprocity: Expectations of Transparency of the Dominant Read More »
I love birthdays. I love getting presents and even more than presents, I love getting a birthday cake. Because come on, birthday cake is awesome and it’s not a birthday without cake. My own personal belief. I remember when I was younger, I kept pondering ways to make my birthday a national holiday. For the
What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older Read More »
Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there are a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I
Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles Read More »
A few months ago, I came across writing on Kinky and Popular called “An Uncollaring Ceremony”. The title caught my eye so I clicked, and I am so happy I did because this writing resonated something inside of me and caused me to think of my submission. It made me think about walls that we,
Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony Read More »
About a month ago, I got an email from a reader telling me that she and her dominant are interested in the Daddy/little girl lifestyle and asked me if I knew of any other online resources other than my previous articles that have appeared here on Submissive Guide. Sadly to say, I didn’t have many
The Best Resources for Littles, Adult Babies, and Diaper Lovers Read More »
The other night after dinner, I curled up on the couch watching My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic (yes, again. There’s a lot of My Little Pony in this household thanks to yours truly), and the particular episode I was watching really hit home for me. In this episode, Mr. Carrot Cake and his wife,
Little Does Not Equal Irresponsible Read More »
In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, but not
Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference? Read More »
Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference? Read More »
With the trailer of the “50 Shades of Grey” movie being released, my Facebook newsfeed and what I have seen on Fetlife in multiple groups, that’s all anyone seems to be able to talk about. I have managed to not see the trailer because I have no interest, but some of the discussions that have come up,
BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM Read More »
The other day, I was going through folders in my inbox, just to see what I had in there, especially the one folder I have labeled “assorted stuff”, which by the way, is not the way to go if you’re wanting to stay organized in any fashion. It’s become my dump all for emails and
The Things I Carry That Help My Submission Read More »
Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours Read More »
The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset
Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks Read More »
It’s no secret that I’m an avid reader by all the book reviews that I’ve done for the site. A few months ago, I picked up a copy of Dark Secret Love by Alison Tyler. If you’ve not heard of it, think of it as a modern-day Story of O. Even though this is a piece of
Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are Read More »
