I’m still amazed at how many novices on FetLife and in my inbox ask me how to talk to their Dominant to ask for what they want or need. Others fail at open communication at all or have had issues with their Dominant because they are keeping things from them. I don’t know about you, […]
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When someone says they have a mentor and that they are learning so much from them I’m happy for them. That is until they start saying that they are having sex with their mentor, or that they play intensely with them. It goes against everything I ever learned about mentors and rubs me wrong and
To be honest I never gave faith much thought when I discovered I was kinky. I had been drifting away from organized religion for years, but when I read on a blog (which I can’t recall now) that someone was having to come to terms with her Christianity and desires for kink/submission it made me
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I never used to enjoy domestic duties. In fact there are a number of days where I stare at my cleaning list as if doing that would make it disappear. However, I have slowly seen how having a clean house really makes it a home. Two years ago I stopped working outside the home and
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This post continues the Domestic Servitude Series. Once considered old ladies’ busy work, I’m here to try to bring a comeback to knitting. With knitting you can provide items for the home that will not only last longer but usually work better and are far cheaper (in the long run). Knitting can be a peaceful
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Age or experience, particularly of the Dominant seems to always been in question no matter where you are. You hear it in forums, at munches and casual gatherings. So much of what we do hinges on that little bit of information. For many submissives that I’m acquainted with, there is no question that experience is important to
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Learning how to mend and patch is an age old skill that used to be second nature, but now it’s a lot easier for people to go out and buy a new pair of jeans when they rip or a new sweater when you lose a button. Clothing has become more disposable. If you are
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The progress of a serious relationship leads to moving in with the other. Whether in a more traditional format after marriage or a modern stand of whenever the relationship is serious enough for that commitment, deciding to do just that takes preparedness. I want to talk about how to prepare yourself and your home for
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Every year many people sit down and make a long list of resolutions they’d like to accomplish in the coming year. It’s a grand idea and one that I tend to participate in every other year or so. But the downfall of this sort of plan is in the timing. You may not be ready
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“We all use these terms freely like Daddy and little, but seriously think back to when you were 4 or 5… Did the thought ever enter your head of where supper came from? How your school clothes appeared in your closet? What caused that warm bed with the covers and teddy bear to be in
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Listening to holiday music on the radio the popular holiday song “Home Sweet Home” comes on and gets me to thinking about my submission. Yeah, I know that sounds silly but stay with me here. When the moments come where I’m filled to overflowing with emotion and love, I realize just how much my submission
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The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn’t learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. “Is It True That Female Dominants Are More About Mental Than Physical Dominance?” This question intrigued me. It’s one of several Luna passed along to me, but I don’t know
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Essentially I think we all believe that Dominant/submissive is an exchange of power but when you talk about it with others there happens to be two schools of thought on it. It can really get confusing because each side believes they are right. I’d like to present to you the two ideas and let you
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There is an art to maintaining any relationship but a long distance one requires a bit more work because you rarely, if ever, see each other in the flesh. LDRs, as they are often called, can drain the parties involved and cause much stress to see flourish. They aren’t impossible to have, but quite difficult
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In D/s sexuality one of the more common rules is that the Dominant controls the orgasms and sexual release of the submissive. Some require that the submissive not even touch themselves without the say so of the Dominant. In this style of power exchange, it is familiar territory that the submissive will learn how to
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Every time we have to face our family as a kink couple, Master and I have had to tone it down and disguise how we normally live our lives. Our family does not know how we live and they really don’t have any business knowing. I’m not going to ask my father what he does
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When we first begin exploring submission and our desires to serve there are usually a lot of baggage we bring to the table. It can cloud our minds and impact how we serve and submit to someone else. No one comes without any baggage at all but the way you handle it and prepare for
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Sexting gets so much bad press these days when it comes to teens sharing naughty pictures of themselves and their friends. It’s not just teens that are doing it though. The majority of the kink community uses mobile devices to carry on their kinky lives unbeknown-st to those around them at the office, on the bus or
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Many of the BDSM activities we may engage in are inherently sexual in nature, even if no sex actually occurs. Being aware and using safe sex barriers when necessary is your protection from disease and infection. I’m amazed by casual play partners that don’t employ these simple techniques to protect themselves and future partners. But
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