Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also. When a submissive gives a negative answer it can be a simple “no” or it can be as elaborate as the Dominant wishes. Some Dominants do not allow the submissive to […]
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Saying yes is one of the most frequent phrases I say on a regular basis. There are several ways you can express a “yes” response to your Dominant or others. When a submissive says “yes” it can be as simple or elaborate as the Dominant wishes. This depends on the formality of the relationship and
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The proper apology is an art, it really is. But before we put that together I’d like to cover the reason for apologizing in the first place. Submissive Guide has just released a new expanded edition of Lessons in Submissive Speech. Get Yours Now! Apologizing is not admitting your intentional disobedience. It’s not about accepting the
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You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however, in certain circumstances, there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions. First, and I have a hard time at this one too, you shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It is not a submissive’s position to know why a Dominant wishes
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Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one. I’m going to break this up into two separate sections. One for single submissives and
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In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a
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Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other
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Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that
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You don’t have to be a perfectionist to have a tidy bed. A well-made bed in the morning will make it more inviting to curl up into at the end of the day. Your bed will say nice and clean and be an inviting haven for sleep. Steps If You Do Not Have Pillow Shams
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You are a Reflection of Your Dominant – Or Are You? I’ve heard this numerous times and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Kind, good-intentioned people say that submissives should be on their best behavior because they are the reflection of the Dominant who owns them. The personal responsibility of the submissive is all
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We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene from time to time. This year
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Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of
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Inspired by the song “ I Will Get There” by Boys II Men This post is for all the single submissives that read this site. I know there is a large percentage of you so there is no reason to be silent any longer. I know the pain and loneliness you are going through. I know
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A common derogatory word used in submissive circles is “doormat” as in, you don’t want to be a doormat submissive. Rarely is it talked about beyond saying that you should not let your Dominant walk all over you. I agree of course, but for the inexperienced, understanding what that really means can come after being
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BDSM can be an expensive hobby or lifestyle. Tools of the trade are rarely cheap and with the many different types, you’ll have a struggle limiting yourself. Many BDSM participants suffer from “gotta have it syndrome.” Luckily some of the most fun and innovative tools are also pervertables that you can find in some unexpected
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I am a high maintenance submissive. I’m well aware of the work that my Master has to constantly do to keep me happy and to keep him well-pleased. I’m not ashamed of it because that is who I always have been and he loves me for it. He even encourages some of it. Much of
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Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything
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One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper-class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to help them with these tasks. In fact
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Throughout history, people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, a ceremony that comes from other
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You’ve been doing the same ole’ kinky sh*t since the beginning and it’s getting old. Really old. So what do you do about it? Does it mean that you have to just keep replaying the record over and over and that nothing will be exciting again? Hardly. Every relationship experiences periods of boredom in the
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