Today is day 12 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am often asked if being submissive means you have to be humble, meek and reserved. It always puzzles me to think […]
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Today is day 11 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. In the book club event we did this fall we read “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. She has some very wonderful stories and words if
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Today is day 10 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Lines are longer, there are more drivers on the road, the snow is falling and kids are a bit more excited than
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Today is day 9 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. “True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupery I’ve asked in
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Today is day 8 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I know that one of the hardest things for me to do is to accept a compliment. I am not the only
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Today is day 7 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. As submissives, we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit. One of the most frequent suggestions I hear
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Today is day 6 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This is a simple moment for you today. Consider the following question. When are you most aware of being owned/submissive? Once you
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Today is day 5 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Whenever I’m writing I have to have music going. It’s like food for my thoughts I think. It has to be a
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Today is day 4 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being rewarded for our submission often feeds our pleasure center once in a while but it’s not required. We all know this
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Today is day 3 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. No matter where we are in our submissive journey, whether that be mere days into the discovery or years of experience we
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Today is day 2 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. There are moments in our life where we can lose sight of why we are submitting, or we can’t grasp that warm
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Welcome to the first day of Submissive Advent. Every day we’ll learn more about ourselves, our relationship or perspective relationships and our submission. Shakespeare has a couple of sonnets that are often used as poems of submission and service. Today, I’d like to share Sonnet 57: Being your slave what should I do but tend
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The Advent is the time in anticipation for Christmas and is celebrated in some religious circles, but also carries a secular following. Advent translated means “the coming.” I’m sure everyone has seen the cardboard calendars with little doors and chocolate inside; to be opened one a day until Christmas Day. Well, I’ve had this idea of
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Did you know that how you see the world isn’t what makes your life positive or negative, it’s how you interpret your life’s events that can turn the glass half full to half empty? Your skill in interpreting events and experiences for better or worse lies in your hands. Oftentimes as submissives we tell ourselves
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Is it possible to have a need for submission? I’m in an amazing “vanilla” relationship, with a past of D/S for both of us. We both know of the other’s past, and recently began to incorporate some D/S components to our relationship. The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s not just
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Hi Luna, I was reading your post about the gift of submission. I thought it was very eye opening. I took your eCourse and it really helped but I am still very confused and feeling overwhelmed. Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that I
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We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and manners online. I’ve also been caught up in the anonymity that talking
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive Read More »
Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care
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I’m going to take a bit of liberty in my assumption here but bear with me for a moment. When you first learn about submission and what it might entail it is likely you are learning about bedroom submission and the pleasures of serving the sexual and sensual needs of your partner. Oftentimes these submissives
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I’ve never been a submissive but my new boyfriend is a professionally trained Dominant that has been in the lifestyle for many years. I knew this about him before we started dating and told him I could accept it in our relationship. He’s ready to incorporate this but I find it utterly ridiculous to get
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