HOW do you get a Dominant Master to lean on you!? They think they have to be Strong and Masterly all the time (even when you remind them you are their slave to serve them and hear their worries) so when they need help they won’t go to you, their slave, even though a slave […]
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Dear lunaKM, I have been in a vanilla relationship for quite some time and lately, we’ve been trying out sub/dom. I’m a sub but not only in the bedroom. I like to be told what to do and punished if I don’t complete them. I’m the kind of person that needs that punishment because I
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I think the most frequent question on every novices lip is, “where do I go to find people, partners, and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as easy as going down to your
Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List Read More »
Hi I need some help, please. I am in a relationship, have been with him for over 2 years. In the bedroom he has always been dominant, I am submissive by nature, and until recently when we discussed our relationship I thought we were doing things that satisfied both of us. At new years we
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I was curious about BDSM before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into BDSM but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows
How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle? Read More »
Hi! My partner and I are both fairly inexperienced in D/s, and we haven’t quite got the hang of how to do a scene. As she says; “I can tie you up alright, but then what?” It’s hard for her to know what to do, and it’s hard for me to know exactly what I
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Dear LunaKM I am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and but the phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site, thank u by the way. Here’s my question … He requests a morning text and a
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Striving to be the perfect submissive can leave you disconnected from your true self. Learn why perfectionism harms your submission and how embracing imperfection leads to deeper growth and authenticity in your D/s journey.
Perfection Isn’t the Goal: Finding Joy in Your Unique Submissive Journey Read More »
Talking dirty is an art that not many are born with, most of us have to learn it if we want to be good at it. I’ve given a bit of a primer on it before if you want to check that out, and I know that many of you are shy and just thinking of talking
5 Types of Naughty Talk To Enhance Your Sexual Experiences Read More »
I’m a female sub, and new to the scene, officially. Unofficially, I have been experimenting with (less than enthusiastic) partners, but now I’m a free agent, and seeking a community! So what’s stopping me you might ask? Well, I have genital herpes, and it deters most people. Do you have any tips for a young
Where Can I Find Like-minded Friends w/ Herpes? Read More »
Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. People in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles love to say this word. We emphasize that it’s the cornerstone of the relationship, that it is the key to a successful relationship and that negotiation, a form of communication, needs to be done on a regular basis depending on the situation and relationship type.
What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating! Read More »
Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if there is anything that can be done to minimize the appearance of bruises and marks after rough play. I am very Irish and my skin is just this shade of death warmed over/ goth girl dream. This makes every mark stand out like a billboard and I get marked
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I am 28-year-old gay male and have been following your website for some time now, THANK YOU. I have always been attracted to dominant men and I am now married to one. My question is how to take our relationship to a formal 24/7 D/s place. Some of the challenges are the following: I am
Can We Move to 24/7 D/s Even If We Have Issues? Read More »
My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and started kissing my ass. It moved to rimming,
My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming Read More »
Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives, we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and how scary some of the things
Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It Read More »
About a month ago I sat down to record a podcast with the crew at KinkyCast.com and today it’s live! I talked with Gabrielle, Woody and the Beast about how to process pain during play, why it’s important to understand and how to positively process pain to make your play last longer, be more fulfilling and perhaps
Positive Pain Processing Interview is Out Now on KinkyCast! Read More »
I am new to a Dom/Sub relationship, for years I chose the wrong men because I was not sure what I needed. I have desired to be a sub for years and now I am acting on it, I have been given this site from Dom Friend who wants me to do some research before we meet. So
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Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article, you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out with
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Explore the emotional power of erotic humiliation and degradation in BDSM. This guide breaks down key differences, challenges misconceptions, and offers personal insight into how these taboo dynamics—when practiced with consent and care—can foster intimacy, catharsis, and self-discovery for those ready to explore vulnerability in a safe, consensual space.
Slut Is Such a Dirty Word and I Love It! – Types of Humiliation and Degradation Play Read More »
One of the hardest things we do as submissives is asking for play. For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn’t in our character. But I’m here to tell you that it isn’t.
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