Luna Carruthers

Figure Out What to Expect From a Relationship Before Entering a Relationship

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Before entering a D/s relationship, it helps to understand what you actually want from one. This article guides new submissives through defining submission and dominance, identifying relationship preferences, exploring interests and limits, and considering how they learn best so they can communicate realistic expectations to a potential partner.

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Under the Microscope: Analyzing What You Read About BDSM for the Truth

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Not everything you read about BDSM is universally true or useful. This article explores how to evaluate BDSM advice critically, recognize assumptions and one-true-way thinking, consider an author’s perspective, and decide which information fits your needs while leaving behind guidance that doesn’t serve your relationships or experiences.

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BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

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Finding someone who shares your BDSM interests can take patience, whether you want a casual play partner or a lasting relationship. This beginner guide explores places to meet kinky people, including dating platforms and local communities, while encouraging thoughtful connections, realistic expectations, and basic safety when meeting someone new.

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What a Dom Means When They Say, “You Need Training”

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Submissive training doesn’t have one universal definition. It might involve learning preferences, service, behavior, positions, protocols, or simply getting to know your partner. This article explores what training can mean in D/s relationships, common misconceptions, and why you should understand what’s expected before agreeing that you need to be trained.

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The Year’s Best-Selling BDSM Books and eBooks from Amazon Voted by YOU

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some time pulling together the entire year’s count of sales through Amazon.com from Submissive Guide’s links. I wanted to know what you all were reading! And boy is it interesting! Check it out and if you see a book that peaks your interest, head on over through the link and check it out. Your other

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How Can I Learn to Speak More Respectfully?

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Respectful speech can be part of a D/s relationship, but expectations vary between dynamics. This article explores how submissives can practice titles, polite phrasing, tone, and thoughtful responses while developing new speech habits. The key is understanding what your Dominant expects and giving yourself time to practice those expectations consistently.

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How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

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Submission doesn’t mean you’ll never get angry with your Dominant. This article explores how to handle conflict without suppressing your emotions or letting frustration explode. Learn ways to cool down, communicate openly, recognize outside stress, address concerns early, and repair the conversation when anger has already gotten the better of you.

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What Is The Expectation of Communication in an Online D/s Relationship?

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Online D/s relationships depend heavily on communication, but there is no universal rule for how often partners should talk. This article explores how submissives and Dominants can discuss contact, direction, rules, and relationship expectations so both people feel more secure, supported, and connected rather than guessing what the dynamic should look like.

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The Day I Stopped Rejecting Compliments and Learned to Love Myself

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Accepting compliments can feel surprisingly difficult when low self-esteem or poor body image tells you the praise can’t possibly be true. This personal reflection explores how learning to receive compliments without arguing, dismissing, or making excuses helped challenge negative self-talk and gradually build greater body acceptance and self-worth.

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A Symbol for Dominants?

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A collar can carry powerful meaning for a submissive, but is there an equivalent symbol for a Dominant? This article explores how collars symbolize the D/s relationship for both partners and considers meaningful tokens a submissive might give their Dominant, including jewelry, keys, toys, or a representation of their relationship agreement.

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I’m Confused. He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting

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A new D/s relationship can feel deeply meaningful, making an abrupt breakup especially confusing and painful. This Ask SubGuide response reminds submissives that BDSM titles don’t guarantee trustworthiness, commitment, or good relationship skills. When someone ends the relationship poorly, allow yourself to grieve, learn from the experience, and move forward more cautiously.

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