The use of safewords during disciplinary punishment can be a complex and emotional topic. This article explores the ethical, safety, and consent considerations involved, encouraging thoughtful discussion rather than rigid rules, and helping partners navigate discipline in ways that remain responsible, communicative, and grounded in mutual care.
Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay? Read More »
Do you feel addicted to your Dominant when you’re apart? You’re not alone. This article explores why submissives can experience obsession, longing, and withdrawal, and how love chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine play a role. Find reassurance and perspective on whether your intense feelings are healthy and normal.
I Feel Addicted to My Dominant, Is This Normal? Read More »
Transitioning into a 24/7 submissive dynamic can be exciting and challenging at the same time. This article explores what learning to be a full-time submissive really involves, using metaphor to highlight patience, adjustment, communication, and realistic expectations as submission deepens beyond scenes into everyday life.
Learning To Be a 24/7 Submissive Is Like… Read More »
Questioning whether submission is right for you is a healthy part of self-discovery. This article explores reflective questions, emotional signals, and personal considerations to help readers thoughtfully explore submission without pressure, labels, or assumptions, encouraging curiosity, agency, and self-honesty over rushing to define an identity.
How Do I Know If Submission Is Right For Me? Read More »
Learning to accept your body can be a powerful act of self-care and submission. This meditation invites submissives to slow down and practice compassion toward the body they have right now, encouraging gentler self-talk, grounding, and appreciation without pressure to change or “love” every part instantly.
Learn to Love The Body You Have – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
Bruising is a common concern with caning and other impact play. This article explores why bruising happens, what factors influence it, and how partners can approach caning with greater awareness, communication, and aftercare, helping reduce harm while prioritizing safety, consent, and bodily care.
How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning? Read More »
Building a long-distance relationship requires more than good intentions. This article explores practical tips for developing connection, trust, and communication across distance, helping partners create structure, manage expectations, and maintain emotional closeness even when they can’t be physically together.
Tips for Developing Long Distance Relationships Read More »
My husband and I have a great marriage but both of us recently opened up about our desires to explore D/s lifestyle. He wants me to be a more attentive partner, take care of His needs and explore my sexuality. I have been submissive to just about everyone my entire life, most of those situations
Mending Old Relationship Scars to Open Up to New Things Read More »
This is another post in the series about a submissive’s perspective in play. This one is on canes and caning, but I’ve also written on gags, spanking, flogging and rope bondage. My first exposure to canes was that of some amateur porn I stumbled across and it made me so terrified of canes that I vowed never to experience them.
Perspectives: Canes Read More »
Hi luna, My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT. I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to. Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect? I have found some information; do you
Resources For CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) Read More »
Sub space is one of the big topics I cover here on the site. So much of what we know about it shifts and changes with our experience that I’m always learning more about how it affects people and what draws people to reaching that sensation in play. If you don’t know, part of why
The 5 Levels of Sub Space In and Out of Playtime Read More »
Dear lunaKM, I’m not sure how to start really but I guess at the beginning is the best. I’m at the point in my life where I’m acknowledging to myself that I’m a Submissive and that the missing part that I’ve been searching for is someone who can help me. Before I even thought about
How Do I Stay Positive While Being a Single Submissive? Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. “I am
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
Dear lunaKM, My boyfriend and I have decided to enter into a D/s relationship as fully as we can. Though I love serving my Dom, I find myself resentful that, mostly, sex involves his orgasms and not mine. Very rarely does he seem interested in my pleasure at all or trying to connect my pleasure
Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship? Read More »
I have heard it a thousand times, someone doesn’t like pain so they are not interested in BDSM. In practically every case the person making that statement retracts it once they find out how erotic some pain can be. Pain doesn’t have to be painful, and other stimuli can be pleasurable and can either mask
But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure Read More »
I had, for the longest time, an opinion that I was not going to write about or mention the “50 Shades of Grey” series on this site. I’ve never read them and have no desire to see the movie, but I have read countless reviews and read-alongs from others in the community and the media to make
How The 50 Shades of Grey Series and Movie Have Impacted the BDSM Lifestyle Read More »
Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look. Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there
I’m New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information? Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. I lost
Lost Wisdom – Submissive Mediation Monday Read More »
Most of us in the BDSM or D/s lifestyle love our toys. Some of us have chests, trunks and even entire rooms dedicated to our tools and toys. I know that KnyghtMare and I have lots of toys and the space they take up keeps growing with each new purchase. Making sure they are clean
Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys Read More »
Dear lunaKM, I was in an intense, committed relationship for four years. This relationship had bdsm elements and I am realizing while reading articles on your SubGuide site that it was indeed a bdsm relationship. In addition to our romantic relationship, we also worked together however we lived separately. During our relationship, there were power struggles resulting in
Should I Contact My Deceased Partner’s Secret Submissive? Read More »
