Have you ever felt like if you made a suggestion or requested a change in the relationship to your Dominant was horribly inappropriate, that it was overstepping your boundaries as a submissive? What about asking for something you’d like to do, like have sex or play, or even just go out to dinner? Do you […]
Learn to Speak Up and Speak Out: Empowering Yourself to Have a Voice Read More »
Stress comes in many forms. Perhaps your partner is having trouble at work. Or maybe he’s caring for his aging parents. Or perhaps there’s tension between your Dominant and an extended family member or close friend. Or maybe your Dominant is sick, suffering from a health problem or concern. Research suggests that couples who actively
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Don’t lose yourself
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Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to learn some tips to make it
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What ARE you expected to do and know as a submissive? Well, for many who are just starting out, the answer really is not much. But that’s not the kind of answer you accept out of me, right? There’s more to it, isn’t there? Of course there always is, but you have to begin somewhere
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”? Read More »
Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I
Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission? Read More »
Often misunderstood; subspace has a complexity that leads many to believe what they are experiencing isn’t subspace at all. But what we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. While SM play is most common to reach subspace you can get there using other means as well. But can you
How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play Read More »
Online submission was and still is a very popular choice for many people, especially the novice submissive and the curious outsider. But it also attracts the not so honest people, the predators and those looking for the weak and vulnerable for their own selfish needs. And that’s why, if you wish to be an online
How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing Read More »
When we talk about safety we can’t avoid talking about safewords. Do you have a safeword? Do you feel safe having it? Need to go back and learn about safewords first? You can do so here. We’ve developed a false sense of security around the “magic” of safewords. But let me tell you this: it will
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Dear lunaKM, I’m a sub and out of the game because a year or so after my husband and I married, I developed Lupus and have dealt with chronic pain ever since, especially in my joints. I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our
Play with Chronic Illness, What Resources Are There? Read More »
I talk about going to munches as a good first step into the lifestyle and there’s certainly a lot of good that can come from that. But when you are already nervous or shy, having a negative experience will make you feel like it just wasn’t worth it or that you don’t fit in. When
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I didn’t always consider myself a slave with protocol. I’ve been with KnyghtMare for over 10 years and it’s been a journey of discovery the whole way. The idea of protocol and ritual to enhance our relationship came about in fits and starts, in small suggestions and ideas but it has grown. And that’s the
How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too! Read More »
Have you ever felt like you are all alone in this loud crowded world of kink? That the things you enjoy are uncommon. Or perhaps you have circumstances that govern how you play or what your relationships are like. It’s not that you are alone, not at all. The world of kink is huge and
A friend of mine called me up the other day to talk. She wanted to know how to talk to her partner about some new kink desires that she had. See she’s what I have always considered kink-lite compared to the way KnyghtMare and I live so while she’s easy to get along with we
Getting Over Your Fears to Talk About Your Newfound Kinky Desires Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. I want you
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Often enough, rituals are reserved for “serious” M/s relationships and D/s that has gone 24/7. At least that’s what I pick up from the multitude of threads I read online and the people I talk to in groups. If you’ve read anything on this site before you’ll probably know my stand on that. It’s completely
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic Read More »
Hello, my partner is submissive, and I am vanilla. We have be together for close to 2 years, but have known each other for much longer. Our relationship has been rocky for some time now, and I have recently agreed to letting my partner fulfill her needs. Although we have agreed to work fiercely on
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Dear lunaKM, In a nutshell, my question is, how do I know if my masochistic tendencies come from a safe place? My Dom and I have both struggled with mental illness, and as such he has never felt comfortable with anything rougher than biting or hair pulling. However, we have never really talked about it.
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Winter is a
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Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if you had any ideas, tips, exercises for knee strengthening? I am a BBW, and being on my knees for a long period of time, cuts off my circulation and can be very painful. This is also true when I am on all fours. I tried pillows, and that helps
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