When you are trying to understand something related to submission, BDSM or your relationship, a submissive journal is a great place to get it all sorted out. While it may not actually solve your problem or answer your question, the simple use of the journal is one of the best tools in your submissive arsenal. […]
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After yesterday’s introduction, I am really excited to share my thoughts with you on journaling and how it can help you (even if it’s never seen by anyone but you). Before we get going tomorrow I wanted to find out from you what you’d like to see me talk about in the coming month. So,
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Many people come to this site searching for ways to improve their submission, communicate with their Dominant and explore different aspects of the D/s and BDSM lifestyles. Each day in October I will be writing a post focusing on journaling your submissive experience; from how to start, its purpose and how to use it for
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As a submissive, I was a newbie once. When I entered the lifestyle, I was excited and cautious after learning there was a term for the kinky ideas in my head. It was overwhelming—I wanted to dive into everything at once. Thankfully, a kind Dominant advised me to learn first, and I’ve never forgotten that
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At the end of May, KnyghtMare’s long-term girlfriend broke up with him suddenly. He said he had no idea it was coming so it hit him really hard. I know that any time someone you love ends the relationship you go through a period of grief and loss and depression, but I’ve never experienced it.
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Three months ago I encountered a
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. Such a Dominant may be considered to have prowess, charisma,
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Recently I’ve encountered a few questions
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We spend a lot of time in front of a screen these days. We chat, we shop, we explore and we date, all from the comfort of our homes. But, it is my opinion, that dating is something that really should be done face to face. Yeah, I know, I met KnyghtMare online and we
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives?
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Dear Annie, I am in a dom/sub relationship long distance, One that has become very stressful for me. I am punished it seems like every day to stay in favor and because of the distance, it is monetary payment. It is breaking me down financially and mentally, it seems I get nothing from this relationship.
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The age-old phrase, “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean,” was created, I believe, to give men with average sized penises some sexual confidence. If you ask any woman in private they are more likely to tell you exactly the type of penis that pleases them. For some it’s
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The most common search queries on this blog have to do with finding a Dominant partner so I have to assume that a lot of you who read here are single and searching for your Dominant. It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant partner adds to the mix of
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Dear lunaKM, So…i am a collared submissive & wear my Ring of Steel collar 24/7, proudly. Problem is: i work in a food service position, where jewelry is prohibited & my supervisor is threatening to take disciplinary action should i wear my collar during my next shift (despite my working while wearing it for nearly 2
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. KnyghtMare and I are still working
Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
This is part two of The Art of Apology. Would you like to read the previous article first? More often than not, we know the moment that we say or do something that our words and actions are going to merit an apology to someone. Most of us have that voice inside our heads that immediately
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I don’t know about you, but I’m monogamous. I am not shared with anyone else and that suits me just fine. But if you go to any online discussion group you may get an impression that the opposite is true; that sharing your submissive with others in a play setting is the norm. But really,
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right…. Read More »
When you become submissive to someone, you could be afraid to lose who you were before the power exchange. I know I was afraid of changing too much when I began to identify as a slave instead of a submissive. Would I even recognize myself? Could I still be opinionated and silly, obsessed with Pentatonix
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So lately I seem to be extra sensitive to pain, and by lately I mean the last several months. I’m worried that I’ve lost my ability to enjoy and endure pain. Is there something I can do to de-sensitize myself. I like pain and miss it!! Sincerely, I Miss Being a Pain Slut! Hey there, Pain
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. We all can handle
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