A healthy, happy relationship is one of the key desires for many submissives, no matter where they are on their journey. When I first started exploring BDSM, I encountered many people who instilled valuable knowledge that strong, stable, and loving relationships can exist between Dominants and submissives. It made me crave a relationship so badly […]
Dear Submissive Guide, I am finally at ease with my Daddy Dom, ready to move on in our relationship, giving him my trust which has been hard for me, because of past abuses. Even thinking of myself as ‘little” for him was hard at first. But I so enjoy the simple nature of the relationship.
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. How’s your self-esteem? Do you feel
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Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else
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“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” Submissive Guide was started not just to share what I know; it is also, at least for me, a way to continue to learn by talking out my struggles and answering the questions presented to me. Communication is a key
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. My personal submission has been in
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from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-10-16 The topic for this article came to me from a reader survey I did over a year ago where I asked you what was most pressing to your at that moment and this question, “must I always wait for my Dom to tell me what to do?” came up.
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We’ve all probably uttered this phrase a time or two when having a heated conversation with a loved one, “you’re becoming defensive.” From the time we are born, we learn defensive mechanisms that are meant to protect us from pain and trauma. A child’s first defense is to cry, and they tend to cry a
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This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the
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This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the
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Discover 9 must-read books on BDSM and D/s relationships that I’ve read more than once. From classic essentials to new gems, these books are perfect for learning and revisiting the world of power exchange.
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Well, the month is over and I hope you learned about submissive journaling and how to open up by writing! I had a great time putting this series together for you but I know I probably missed some of the things you wanted to know! I’ll also include some great journaling resources and links around
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We are nearly to the end of the Submissive Journaling series here on Submissive Guide. This month has been chock full of tips, tricks, and how-tos for journaling and I hope you have picked up some good ideas for your own journaling needs. So, this is where I ask you what you thought of the
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Facebook, FetLife, LinkedIn, Twitter, Ning, Digg, MeetUp, blogs, Instagram, KIK, etc., — the number of social networking sites and tools is exploding. Social networking is the killer app of the Internet for everyone. Such sites have become links to communicate with businesses, news, brands, celebrities, and friends, are a way to find your next job or the
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When I first started journaling (on an online blog) I loved sharing quotes that I liked. They touched me in some way or reminding me of how I was feeling at the time. Whatever the case may be for why you like a quote; quotes inspire us, they give us a tidbit of thought and
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One of the main ways I’ve used my personal blog for years is as a brain dump. A brain dump is a method of releasing all the clutter that’s in your head at the time. Whether that be a rant or a moment of stress or a way to sort out intense emotions. Submissive Journaling
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You have the basics down for journaling, you’ve read up on journal prompts and making book notes and writing scene reports like a boss what more can there be in a submissive journal? Well, lots of things actually! Today it’s being thankful. A wonderful thing to consider when journaling is to add a gratitude log/journal. I
Submissive journaling is not just about writing a diary. Journaling is what you want it to be. It can be lists of things, thoughts, rants, collections, habit tracking and so much more. It can also be a big part of your personal growth and self-discovery. One of the best ways to do that is through
When you don’t know what you want to write about in your submissive journal but have an obligation to write something, one of the best tool is journaling prompts. Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have curated a long, long list of introspective questions, thoughts, and quotes to help you develop as a person
The challenge of any writer is, “what do I write about?” Maintaining a blog every day, I ask that question all the time. Since I started a blog over 7 years ago I’ve been able to come up with things to talk about almost every single day. With a bit of creative brainpower and a
