Welcome to the first part in a series I hope will help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. […]
Entering the Community: Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources Read More »
You have a safeword for your BDSM kinky fun. Right? I know there’s a debate in the world of BDSM and D/s between the safeword crew and those who don’t want one. I land firmly on the side of having a safeword – always. It’s rarely used but it’s always there. We could debate the merits of having
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword? Read More »
I have a dear friend in my local lifestyle. She’s the owner of a private BDSM dungeon. She’s a master (she doesn’t like the term ‘mistress’) with a devoted slave. She trains and mentors submissives. She bottoms with people she trusts. She’s also a professional FemDom with clients who meet with her on a weekly
You Can’t Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little Read More »
There’s a really bad idea out there that Dominants decide everything and submissives simply accept it. Once you enter into your relationship, after initial negotiations, you’re expected to submit, serve, and wait for whatever your Dominant decides to do to you or for you. You do what you’re told and keep your mouth shut. Wrong! New (or
How to Ask for What You Need as a Submissive Read More »
The things that test us aren’t always outside forces. Sure, our friends, family, and partners will test us from time to time – whether they mean to or not. In my experience, though, the things that test us the most come from within… Whenever I introduce myself to the kink community, I refer to myself
Submission is a Choice That Will be Tested Read More »
Some of us live our D/s lives out in the open, letting family and friends know who and what we are – and dealing with any fallout from people who don’t understand the lifestyle. To you, I have much love and respect. I’m not there yet…and maybe I never will be. Others, like myself, keep
How to Deal With the Question of Being Kinky and a Parent Read More »
One of the biggest concerns anyone who’s a Dominant or a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle has is privacy. Although living in a D/s relationship or enjoying kinky fun may be an inherent part of who we are as individuals, what we do and what we enjoy is on the fringe of what’s considered “socially
We Do Not Out Each Other: Protecting People’s Privacy Read More »
If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. The feeling of completeness when we find the right Dominant. The silencing of all the noise in our minds. The ability to relax knowing that someone we trust is in charge. The love and devotion we feel when we
The Best Part About Submission is Our Ability to Choose Read More »
